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To think all men are basically pervs?

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mrsluvvaluvva · 01/03/2012 13:49

Hi there

Felt compelled to ask this as just lately I have really been seeing men in a different light when in social settings. Perhaps I am just getting old and grumpy or reading something that isn't there.

I have been to a few parties recently and have been really conscious of men eyeing up very young almost tartily dressed teenagers. These girls were dressed very glamorously but waay too old for their age. I saw a couple of girls probably aged 16/17 and a couple over 18's, but not by much.

What I found worrying was middle aged men blatently eyeing them up and more worrying men in my group of friends/family. Men old enough to be their dad's. Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could. Now I'm talking not just about a pretty girl but proper tarted up, hot pants the lot.

It made me feel quite sick to see middle aged men perving like this, so am I being unreasonable here to think even nice guys are secret pervs and although they may not be happy with their daughters dressed up like that, they will happily ogle others?

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DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 22:27

Because my name's debbie and I was born in 1978.

DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 22:26

A 32 year old woman I work with went to see "The Wanted" with a group of friends last week. They aren't far off being teenagers are they? She was drooling about them for days afterwards.

carmenelectra · 01/03/2012 22:26

Debbie, yes a 16 year old girl may be able to get pregnant, but hardly reprocuctive prime. In fact, just a high risk for miscarriage as an older woman at the end of her fertility . Reproductive prime would actually be more like early 20's.

And why am I called carmenelectra. Dunno. I like it. Why are you called. Debbie 78?

Spuddybean · 01/03/2012 22:25

My dad and his mates go down the pub and stare really obviously at the barmaids who are late teens early 20's. If i meet Dad for a drink he keeps trailing off mid sentence while staring and i say 'Dad stop staring' he always says he's not, or i'm just jealous Hmm

If we are in the car and he sees a woman (pretty much any woman) he slows and stares. I know how obvious and creepy it is because it happened to me from old lech's when i was young.

Mum just rolls her eyes. But i think it's really horrible for a 68 year old man. He's like a teenager, him and his mates swap porn sites to watch and whenever i log on my parents (actually mums work) computer to check MN my emails there is always gross porn all over it which he hasn't closed down properly.

Last week i had the embarrassing task of teaching mum how to clear the internet history.

However, DP is nothing like that and neither is any other man i know. Sad really.

Whatmeworry · 01/03/2012 22:24

I can't think of any woman I know who would perv over a teenage boy.

Oh come on.

LeQueen · 01/03/2012 22:24

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DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 22:19

Why is it an odd comment? It's factually true.

Why are you called Carmen Electra btw?

carmenelectra · 01/03/2012 22:18

Agree with sayboo. And yes, grim.
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Debbie, reproductive prime?come on. Odd comment

LeQueen · 01/03/2012 22:15

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DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 22:11

I know plenty of women in their 30s who, maybe perv is the wrong word, but find Justin Bieber attractive. I find that more strange than men fancying Rihanna or other teenage girl popstars.

DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 22:09

Eyeing up and leering is one thing, propositioning is another, especially a 15 year old.

But teenage girls are in their reproductive prime. It's human nature for men to find it physically attractive.

SayBoo · 01/03/2012 22:08

I can't think of any woman I know who would perv over a teenage boy. Do any of you fancy Justin Bieber? I doubt it. Yet I'm sure many men perv over girls his age. Grim.

SayBoo · 01/03/2012 22:07

I like to think my DH isn't. I know that (even before I was with him) he turned down stag night trips to strip clubs because thy made him feel uncomfortable, and lost a friendship because the guy cheated on his wife.

However, I was a very physically mature 15 yr old and I was eyed up, leered over and propositioned by many a fully grown man....so...I am always suspicious, I'm afraid.

Its not cool. I find it absolutely disgusting in retrospect. If I thought my DH was leering over teenagers I would be appalled.

carmenelectra · 01/03/2012 22:04

I am sorry but I really do not buy all this laughing and joking and saying that most of you are cool wlith this scenario!

So when a middle aged man is ogling a teenager he is doing it with concern or dismay at how she is dressed?oh are!as if.

I think its well creepy that men perv at young(much younger) women. Anyone that thinks its biology is crackers.
I do not believe for one second that many women would stand at a party and laugh it off while their dh and his friends leered at a child dresSed as a woman.

Whatmeworry · 01/03/2012 20:44

All men are pervs a bit of the time, a few men are pervs nearly all the time. Ditto women.

Sorted.

fabwoman · 01/03/2012 18:33

LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL

at MrHoneydragon.

LeQueen · 01/03/2012 18:29

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Honeydragon · 01/03/2012 18:25

LeQ Dh does the same Hmm

So I informed MrHoneydragon that Fabwoman expressed positive affirmations for him on the thread. The subject matter has obviously got to him as his response was

"Cool, does she put out?"

whence he returned to his shed at speed sniggering. Grin

tethersend · 01/03/2012 18:04

Grin Debbie

DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 17:59

I think this sketch from the fast show is fairly accurate:

fabwoman · 01/03/2012 17:55

I think I am a little in love with MrHoneydragon Grin.

LeQueen · 01/03/2012 17:49

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Truckulentagain · 01/03/2012 17:48

Chemical castration for the over 40s it's the only answer.

Archemedes · 01/03/2012 17:45

I think everybody looks,
I often find tarty girls look younger as its apparent they are so desperate to look older IYSWIM.
Its pretty sad when you seem people eyeing up someone infront of their OH blatantly must be pretty shit to be so humiliated in public.

tethersend · 01/03/2012 17:43

They're all the same, Trills. They just don't care.

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