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To think all men are basically pervs?

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mrsluvvaluvva · 01/03/2012 13:49

Hi there

Felt compelled to ask this as just lately I have really been seeing men in a different light when in social settings. Perhaps I am just getting old and grumpy or reading something that isn't there.

I have been to a few parties recently and have been really conscious of men eyeing up very young almost tartily dressed teenagers. These girls were dressed very glamorously but waay too old for their age. I saw a couple of girls probably aged 16/17 and a couple over 18's, but not by much.

What I found worrying was middle aged men blatently eyeing them up and more worrying men in my group of friends/family. Men old enough to be their dad's. Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could. Now I'm talking not just about a pretty girl but proper tarted up, hot pants the lot.

It made me feel quite sick to see middle aged men perving like this, so am I being unreasonable here to think even nice guys are secret pervs and although they may not be happy with their daughters dressed up like that, they will happily ogle others?

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Labootin · 01/03/2012 14:20

I perv at my pool boy ....

I am a bad bad person.

Oh, hi Jilly! Hope the past 12 years have been good to you Grin

ByBusyTiger · 03/12/2024 20:49

Damn you zombie

hello world

search4youth · 03/12/2024 20:37

Working girls. You mean whores.

search4youth · 03/12/2024 20:33

Be quiet. You misrepresent what OP said you fool. You carry on thinking it’s normal. Weirdo

search4youth · 03/12/2024 20:26

So true. Love the women on here who realise it’s normal for men to stare and get all worked up over my arse hugging hot pants and my nipples showing tight tank top. I love getting other women’s husbands to dribble longlingy at me.
it’s normal isn’t it?

MissTrip82 · 03/12/2024 20:20

Of course it’s revolting to be ogling anyone especially young women.

It’s also revolting, and part of the same appalling social norm, to repeatedly call girls ‘tartily’ dressed or ‘tarted up’.

The same misogyny is behind both.

DonnaBanana · 03/12/2024 20:17

Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could

So not actually doing anything pervy at all then. It’s not illegal or improper to look at other people.

search4youth · 03/12/2024 20:10

You might not see this as 12 years late but totally agree. It’s disgusting and puts me off men.
these people who are saying dress how you like then what if what I like is naked with my tits and arse out near your husband. Disrespectful. I would slap the slapper.

pigletmania · 29/10/2012 15:37

Yabvvvu of course. Talk about tarring all men with the same brush

OneMoreChap · 29/10/2012 14:13

serves me right for tl;dr

cheekydevil · 29/10/2012 13:12

Halloween is bringing the zombies out whoa ha ha ha! [hshock]

FunBagFreddie · 29/10/2012 13:02

March!? Shock

BoneyBackJefferson · 29/10/2012 12:56

note to self
must start looking at the dates of the posts.

BoneyBackJefferson · 29/10/2012 12:55

mrsluvvaluvva

"One party had a girl dressed in miniscule hotpants(no one else even dressed in anything close to this )the other was a wedding. Girl in normal dress but very very tarted up-ie TOWIE style"

So any male that looks at a woman/girl dressed like this is a perv but you aren't?

I think that you should get some perspective.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 29/10/2012 12:45

Zombie thread from March.

FunBagFreddie · 29/10/2012 12:41

Of course men like to look at pretty young women, especially ones that are scantily clad. They all do it, without exception. Decent blokes just have the good sense and respect to not do it openly infront of their DP/DW. Grin

If they are being blatant and making the young women feel uncomfortable, or if they are leching over underage girls, then they are pervs and deserve a kick in the knackers.

OneMoreChap · 29/10/2012 12:27

At 15 pages tl;dr Grin

No, all men aren't perves.
Some are, some aren't.

Mores of society seem to be changing with a variance in body image becomeing less acceptable. [Body hair, shape, etc.]

I suspect driven by porn and the fashion industry.

ISTR Lenny Henry said he knew he was getting older when he saw scantily glad women going to gigs and thought "They must be freezing" rather than "PHWOOAR!"

I've never seen the "fascination" with women dressed as schoolgirls either, which is allegedly a male fantasy.

I'll occasionally look at an attractive woman, and pass comment to DW; as I would an attractive man [e.g. I think Christian in Eastenders looked good - until "that hair"; I also notice what newcasters wear [as in that necklace doesn't look right]

bytext · 29/10/2012 12:14

I am 62 attractive with reasonable figure and 2 years into a relationship with a 63 year old man. Hes ok looking, not my normal type but I thought I'd look outside the box this time and go more for a kind personality.
OMG how wrong was I!!!!
He ogles females (never overweight women, he derides these) any age from 13 upwards - if I challenge him he will say I was looking at: number plate, her boots "aren't they old fashioned , she looks like, I thought you'd look good in that, wow I had a car like that etc, look at the top of that building".
Anything to distract me from seeing his leering looks, it happens when hes driving, we are shopping, we sightseeing everywhere - his eyes become glazed he is disconnected to the point he becomes motionless and deaf ( well to my comments).
The latest episode on hols when he was so engrossed with the legs of a not very attractive 50 something woman he didn't hear me ask fopr another drink 3 times. I flounced off, we have returned to the uk but contact been very limited.
He says he would have been better if he had committed a murder and I am being unreasonable, AM I?

Latara · 05/03/2012 02:16

Honeydragon - Nooo; my teenage Buffy memories are now ruined by the wrongness that is Muppet Angel! :-D

Archemedes · 04/03/2012 10:04

I second the poster who said you shouldnt have to watch.

LovedayPan · 04/03/2012 09:54

agree Hd - no-one fussed about him with his natural ginger hair. All a bit juvenile and absurd.[judgey]

Honeydragon · 04/03/2012 09:36

Do not getme started on this (frankly weird) Cumberbatch obsession sweeping the boards. That is perverted.

LovedayPan · 04/03/2012 09:14

not sexy

not sexy

Morloth · 04/03/2012 07:58

Though David Boraenze now appears to have no body hair.

I liked Spike better before he became good. He seemed to enjoy himself so much, then he just turned into a whiny little bitch like Angel.

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