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To want to stick his twunting hairdryer up his bottom?

239 replies

ChocolateTeacup · 23/08/2011 16:57

I apologise if the title offends.

I have a (not so D)H who is working very hard at the moment, Leaving the house around 10am back around 10pm

Last night I was feeling very drained from a tough day with the boys aged 3 & 4 as they had been whiny and clingy, I had earlier gone out to the site to deliver donuts and drinks to him and his friends who are working together on a big project. Came home made dinner, put his in the microwave ready for him and sent a message saying I was going to bed. He replied ok

Then he comes in storms in the bedroom ( I was asleep) going why the hell are you in bed?? where am I supposed to get dry after my shower (rather than dry himself with a towel, he spends around an hour with a hairdryer blasting him whilst he fiddles on his phone) I respond, I was asleep it is one room of the house, use a different one, he grabs the laptop slams the door storms off, comes back and says oh I suppose I will have to sort my dinner as well, i say yes its in the microwave

Shower goes on

Then off

Screw you its my damn house and if I want to relax in my bedroom I will.

At this point I move onto the sofa, not wanting to provoke a big row, figuring fine he is just stressed.

So he gets dry (hairdryer turned full whack) turns the hall light on wakes up the eldest boy, who is happy to see him and he him, bangs and crashes about getting his own dinner. We haven't spoken since.

We have been married 7 years and I still hate the noise of the stupid hairdryer, WIBU to respond to any further rubbish with its insertation? There is another hairdryer that lives in the study, so its not as if I was suggesting he didn't use the stupid thing

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VaginaPuddleduck · 24/08/2011 10:41

Exactly thumbwitch.

Thumbwitch · 24/08/2011 10:40

It's even more of an issue if he does it when he comes home at 10pm and wakes everyone up!

VaginaPuddleduck · 24/08/2011 10:39

It's odd and selfish to spend an hour drying yourself in the morning when you could be looking after your children.

The hairdryer IS a problem in itself if he's spending 7 hours a week drying himself while the OP runs around like a chump after the children.

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:36

Again....what does it matter?
The issue is the OP's dh's attitude and rudeness. Why are you all being so silly and focusing on the hairdryer?

So he uses a hairdryer to dry himself after a shower....so. fucking. what?!

diddl · 24/08/2011 10:34

OK, I can see how it might come come about with kids as part of a game/treat.

But you´re not actually telling them that that is how they now dry themselves for the rest of their lives, are you?

I just have visions of this guy stepping out of the shower saying "I´ll be down in an hour, when I´ve dried myself" WTF??!!

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:30

The reason we started doing it in the first place is because we live in a very old stone cottage, which is fucking baltic in winter.....it came about to warm the kids up after they got out of the bath.....and they love it, so we do it now and then for a treat, and do it in the winter for the reasons above.

My husband is quite hairy, so uses the drier to speed things up.

What lunacy eh? Hmm

CheerfulYank · 24/08/2011 10:27

So it's two hours of him drying himself a day? Two hours ? I'd go mad.

Thumbwitch · 24/08/2011 10:25

Glad you can afford the electricity for it! And it dries the skin out.

Bet you don't do it for an hour at a time though, do you pictish?

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:24

Why? Because I want to.

Why do you lot care so much?

diddl · 24/08/2011 10:24

But why, Pictish?

What made you think "Oh, I´ll dry the kids with a hairdryer?"

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:22

On occasion, I have used the hairdryer to dry my kids after a bath...just for the sheer pleasure of it....they love it.

Call the men in white coats immediately. Hmm

JarethTheGoblinKing · 24/08/2011 10:21

Do you know someone who does this pictish? :)

diddl · 24/08/2011 10:16

Sorry, but I do find it odd.

Odd that his dad ever did it-unless there was a specific reason, odd that he carried on unnecessarily, odd that the guy has carried it on himself- and that he does it to the detriment of others.

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:16

shrugs

Think this is a case of Mumsnet making a mountain out of a molehill to be honest.

The problem is his rudeness....fuck the hairdryer - what does it matter?

JarethTheGoblinKing · 24/08/2011 10:15

Pictish, yes it is.. its just weird

lachesis · 24/08/2011 10:12

Yeah, it's odd, especially for an hour a day.

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:10

It's not THAT odd, as to elicit the responses on here!!

diddl · 24/08/2011 10:09

I think it´s an odd thing to do.

But a hairdryer droning on for an hour-couldn´t cope with that.

pictish · 24/08/2011 10:07

Why are you all so shocked that someone would use a hairdryer to dry themselves after a shower??

What's the biggy?

summertimeblews · 24/08/2011 10:05

why wouldnt you nip this behaviour in the bud the minute you saw him do it - why let it go on for years?

I dont get that

VaginaPuddleduck · 24/08/2011 09:06

Fetchez I cackled at that Grin

LindyHemming · 24/08/2011 08:26

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Deanna1977 · 24/08/2011 08:19

The shower/hairdryer behaviour is odd, obsessive and selfish.
The stomping around, moaning & disturbing you is selfish, disrespectful and damm annoying. He needs to get some help.

Does he go to the gym? Swimming? What happens then? Does he parade around with bits swinging in the changing rooms? What about school? Would he not have got the piss ripped out of him? What happens when you stay with friends/relatives?

I explained this thread to my DH. (when he had just got out of the shower). His reply was "Why? Did they not have towels."

very strange indeeed.

Love the Chewie/hairdryer picture.

HairyGrotter · 24/08/2011 07:26

It's not time for his morning shower yet is it? Please film it, then put it on YouTube so we can all watch.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 24/08/2011 06:58

Shock and Grin