Bored by full-time motherhood

Sorry was that directed at me?

I really don't understand why you, Xenia and SM too come on EVERY single thread that has anything to do with people being a SAHM. Xenia in particular reduces it to things like "singing the Wheels on the Bus 30 times a day".

My ds is 18 months old so I am new to this and it is worth talking about.. and if your choice is one you have made and are happy about and you feel has value, I can see why you might feel that there is value in sharing that with women at a different stage of the process.

But saying the SAME things on threads again and again and again (the Romans had slaves to take care of their kids, dontcha know? there are all these mothers "banging the Biddulph tambourine" etc with the SAME phraseology, strikes me as a strange thing to invest so much time in when you are not actively involved in making that particular choice.

I doubt very much I will ever be a SAHM apart from those months on maternity but I am making and will make my own choices and I don't feel the need to tell other people that what they do is boring or because they are precious moments mamas or x or y or z.

This thread was shaping up as a fresh discussion on an old topic and then along come the old faithfuls with the "my life is so fantastic, you are deluded if you think you can have as fantastic a life as mine if you don't do what I do" stuff. It's extremely tiring. I'd really like to see a discussion with nuance and openness that isn't as polarised as it becomes when the old faithfuls arrive. I thought this might be that thread but sadly, no.

It will get better. Six months and the fog will start to clear.

I look back on life with one with joy - it was lovely.
Two under 3 - much more difficult. Now there's double buggies and 10 bags of shite to make up before we go anywhere and ds1 is potty training and ds2 is weaning and teething and my house is in a constant state of hellholeness and all ds1 wants is biscuits and he is eating me out of house and home....

I am amazed at ow drastically evrything has changed since ds2!

I only have one small. That helps. SAHMumming has been a breeze.Nothing like work. Especillay when he started going to preschool and now school. Work sucks in comparison.

That sounds dreamy onlion! If I don't shower before dh leaves in the morning I won't get to - my boys like to run a very demanding tag team system at the moment. It's wearing me down!

And I very rarely get breakfast without some little bugger stealing some!
But hey, it's good for weight loss!
There is no way in holy hell I could sit down and do any kind of work - as it is I've had to clean up wee, put crotchety baby back to bed 3 times and am currently typing one fingered while feeding baby, turning tv over for ds1 until he finds something he deems watchable without screaming 'get it off' therefore waking crotchety baby...
I envy you!

What is it like being an hcp? How does it fit in with your children? I am curious. Do you love your job? Would love to do something I love. (sorry for all the questions - am very nosy :) )

Completing a task in it's entirety first time without interspersing it with other things is something I dream of! Never before have I longed so much just to be able to hang out the washing in one go, instead of the in, out, see you in a few hours....

Never mind eh?

Right everyone *shhhhhh!!

Baby is asleep! (woohoo!!)
Toddler is watching some cack on tv and is being quiet.
Now might be the time to finish chopping the carrots!!

(I am far too easily excited these days)

Oooh, yes Norman. Good choice. Never considered that before. Don't know why!

Nope, found it!! Agree with the sentiment Miggsie

It's nice to find sentences in literature that correspond with how you are feeling at that particular time. It helps a lot I think.
Love Eliot.
Barrat-Browning is also a good read when you fancy some cosy soul searching.

And I am hpc resistered :)

I totally disagree about the structure of work v sahm. I am sitting having my breakfast now and am on my laptop. I will sit and have a lunch break later. In fact, in a minute, I will go and have a shower

At work I dont get a lunch break and cant nip into the shower

Sorry

Speech therapy ( if you are interested in language tis something to consider)

And it was a comment by Miggsie up thread. About The Love Song of J ALfred Prufrock

What is SALT Norman?

Also, who said Eliot? Think I missed that one! Want to see!
[english lit geek]

wowwow - I couldn't agree more.

Threelittleducks - I'm going to do SALT which has specialisms in adults or children, might suit you.

BTW - TSEliot poem is about an old guy visiting prostitutes not about SAHM at coffee mornings

id recommend pursue something with HCP registration eg nurse,ot,physio
this will give a more structured career path and an amount of stability.

Depends what my degree pathway is. I can choose just to opt out at the end of this and just have an equivalent of SVQ3.

what do you qualify as at end of course?

Well, I guess I'll make the decision when the time comes. For now, Health Studies :)

linked by emapthy and approach of staff -yes definitely
but are different specialism with different presentations,the clinical pathways of aging are not same as child development.and both demand diff skills

I think there is an element for some women who say they 'couldn't' be a SAHM that putting the role down makes them feel better. They can't do it but it's a rubbish role anyway/not even a job - they are incapable of stooping so low etc so I don't get offended.

Indeed, although I believe they can be linked. It's very interesting how we regress as we get older. Shakespeare says something about it which I love:

The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slippered pantaloon
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;
His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide
For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice,
Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.

I find it fascinating.

I had (& still have, although I am now on an extended unpaid leave) a very well paid job in an investment bank (£70k a year)...but since having DS 14 months ago I am trying my best to avoid going back to work as I am having too much fun staying home taking care of him. I never wanted a child, and for the first few months absolutely hated the drudgery of taking care of a young baby. I was planning on going back to work when he was three months old, but then suddenly fell in love with him and am now, I guess, officially a SAHM. Rather a lifechange for an almost 40-something career woman.....I can appreciate it's not for everyone, but I LOVE being at home & taking care of DS every day. I think I'm lucky in that I have supportive DH who wanted a kid more than I did, so is happy for me to stay home. Career can go up poo creek without a paddle!

they are v diff specialisms to work in though.different chronological age bring diff presentation,some of which are age specific eg alzheimers

No placements unfortunately as no childcare. Had the option but couldn't take it :(
I want to specialise in childhood development or the elderly - I feel they are quite close. Especially the elderly with mental health problems.

Lysithia, I could be an excellent business woman.
Sometimes it grates.
But the great irony of what I'm doing at the moment as a SAHM is that, as much as I realise what I am missing 'career' wise, I am also taking a great joy in investigating childhood again. I am extremeley interested in child development and did a great deal of research in my final year at uni into it.
I guess my great hope is that I will fashion a passion out of it and do some excellent research and publish a fabulous article.
The guilt at not taking extreme joy in my time at home is sometimes excruciating.
Sad, but true.