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To not want all our weekends eaten up by ds's football playing?

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emkana · 22/05/2011 20:41

Asking on behalf of my SIL actually. Her ds wants to play football, training twice a week and matches at the weekend. She hates the thought of it, especially considering she has two younger daughters. Is it a sacrifice you have to make?

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magicmummy1 · 22/05/2011 21:02

My Saturdays tend to revolve around dd's activities, and some Sundays too - just the way it is really. We try not to have anything regular on a Sunday, though, so that we can still have days out etc.

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emkana · 22/05/2011 21:02

But football matches is not really time together is it...

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cantspel · 22/05/2011 21:01

I have been involved with youth football for years and it never ceases to amaze me the number of parents who cannot be bothered to turn up to their children's games.
We have spent today at a youth tournament. Around a 1000 children out in the fresh air playing football. It was cold and windy but i still would rather be there than not support my child.

marialuisa · 22/05/2011 20:58

Sorry, we both work f/t so have never really got the whole "family time" thing-sounds like hell. We do enjoy spending time together though and that sometimes means supporting each other's interests,even if those interests woul not be our first choice of ways to spend time.

Presumably your SIL's kids are young for this not to have come up before? What will happen when the party circuit starts or the girls want to go to dance classes? The way you spend time together changes as kids get older.

AnnoyingOrange · 22/05/2011 20:57

most parents I know take their children to activities at the weekend.

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emkana · 22/05/2011 20:57

The dd's are five and nearly three, bit young for independent interests.

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Lilyloo · 22/05/2011 20:56

Either go in the afternoon or miss the odd game , training session. Season is over for best part of the summer.

Lilyloo · 22/05/2011 20:56

Most of our weekend mornings are taken up by dc's football and dancing i just accept it part of being parent

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emkana · 22/05/2011 20:56

What about family outings?

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squeakytoy · 22/05/2011 20:54

Your SIL is being selfish. It is good that he has an active hobby.

Why is it a sacrifice to everyone else?, they can (and should) have their own independent interests.

FabbyChic · 22/05/2011 20:52

What about when her daughters get older and they want to go to dance/ballet will she say no then because of the time it takes up? Will she be moaning then because she has a son?

I think your SIL is being selfish. Being a parent is about making sacrifices.

cantspel · 22/05/2011 20:49

I have 2 sons and one of them hates football but he just goes off and plays with the other siblings.

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emkana · 22/05/2011 20:46

Do you have other children? Even if dad does it it means the family not spending time together.

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cantspel · 22/05/2011 20:45

But the season doesn't start till september and then finishes around march/april.

My son still trains twice a week in the summer and the odd tournament or friendly.

So yes being a mum is doing things you dont like but it isn't that bad and our club is very social so now i find most of my social life centres around the club and people we have met through football.

marialuisa · 22/05/2011 20:44

Does he do any other activities? If dad is on hand to help out I don't see what the big deal is. But DD has a pony so I'm clearly more relaxed than most about dedicating time to a DC's activities.

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