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for feeling smug when mothers of school-agers describe themselves as "Full-time mums" or "Housewives"?

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CareeringAlong · 29/11/2010 16:22

Name change...

Following from the threads about life at home when you don't do voluntary of paid work, although your children are of school-age, I was wondering if anyone else who does work can't help feeling a tad superior? Oh yes, I know I'll be flamed for this, but there it is.

These housewives seem to do all the things that working mothers do (cooking, cleaning, planning etc, etc, etc) but don't have any purpose outside of this. They seem to think that doing the supermarket shopping is a reasonable replacement for a 'real' career. I can't help but feel prejudiced against them.

I'm currently a SAHM as DD is pre-school, but will do paid (and voluntary) work as soon as she's in school. I'm looking forward to building-up my career again and working for the family.

Oh, and before anyone jumps on this, I've always cooked decent-quality meals from scratch, even when I worked v. long hours; my dogs are walked in the early hours; and my house is always clean and tidy. I argue that ironing is for losers, however!

OK. Hard hat on!

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Tikiinasantahat · 29/11/2010 16:28

ha ha ha ha ha ha

ShatnersBassoon · 29/11/2010 16:28

I'm very jealous of you. I'd love to have it all.

Hmm
CareeringAlong · 29/11/2010 16:27

I'm talking about people who don't have any pre-schoolers.

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Tikiinasantahat · 29/11/2010 16:27

you are hilarious, well done.

scurryfunge · 29/11/2010 16:26

I think you think about going back to work before your DC go to school - that will certainly add to your smugness. (and it will give you something to do too).

BitOfFun · 29/11/2010 16:26

I feel so offended by your post that I may need to go for another lie-down. Or perhaps take a hot relaxing bath.

Flumptious · 29/11/2010 16:26

I'm jealous of them, but maybe that's just me.

Well done you for being perfect.

strandedatseasonsgreetings · 29/11/2010 16:26

No I think they probably feel superior that they can sit around and put their feet up all day while you are slaving at work then rushing around like a mad thing in the evenings/weekends to do everything else Smile

I am assuming this is a purposefully antagonistic post so enjoy! However I am not sure there are very many women like you describe. Most are usually up to something..

CareeringAlong · 29/11/2010 16:26

Not bored. Well, maybe a bit!

Not a wind-up though!

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WhatsWrongWithYou · 29/11/2010 16:25

Out of interest, are you planning on having any more children?
I think you'll find a lot of SAHMs didn't have the option of returning to work when their oldest reached school age, as there were 2 or 3 others by then as well.

GetOrfMoiLand · 29/11/2010 16:25

Christ.

You will need the best of britosh luck with this thread, mate.

God only knows why you would feel smug about working tbh.

You don't get gold medals for it, you know.

DeathandTaxes · 29/11/2010 16:25

Good for you dear. Big pat on the back. Hmm

CareeringAlong · 29/11/2010 16:24

I know I am. I also know I'm not the only one who feels like this! Wink

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BeribbonedGibbon · 29/11/2010 16:24

wind up

scurryfunge · 29/11/2010 16:24

Are you bored?

PamelaFlitton · 29/11/2010 16:24

YANBU

Chathappy · 29/11/2010 16:24

Here's a cigar... And a Biscuit too.

ClearAndChristmasPresent · 29/11/2010 16:24

(I only bothered writing this to try out my name change)

ClearAndChristmasPresent · 29/11/2010 16:23

Oh you are so in for it now....

Anyway, YABU. People make their choices. You make yours.