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to not want to have to remember everything for everybody!

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undercovamutha · 14/09/2010 14:09

Argh - am so fed up with having to remember things, and with DH's not listening'forgetfulness'.

I have at least 100 things to remember at any one time - reading books, fruit, dinner money, forms etc etc for school. Nappies, spare clothes, fees, forms for nursery. Inset days, birthdays (everyones), dance lesson money, bills, general house admin, appointments etc etc etc.

PLUS I work in a senior role (p/t) and have tons of stuff to remember at work too.

Recently I have asked DH to do a few things (tell the school that DD's dinner money is in her bag when he drops her off, asked him to post a letter, reminded him to pick some milk up on way back from work). This is ALL he has to remember (re. home things), and I have reminded him first anyway, and yet he forgets EVERY SINGLE THING I ask him to do, or does it slightly wrong (uses 2nd class stamp instead of first, buys bread but not milk).

He now says that he has too much on his mind and can't remember everything (!), so can I write him notes to remind him. FFS! So now I have to remember everything, then remind DH, and now write him a note to confirm the details! AIBU to want someone else (DH!) to remember things every now and again to give my brain a rest?

(btw there is nothing wrong with DH's memory - he remembers his own things, such as ebay end times, just fine).

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catinthehat2 · 14/09/2010 14:27

It's washing up syndrome. Do it badly and never get asked again.

Tell him you know all the tricks, don't bother trying them on you, and since he is too junior to merit a PA, he's going to need to carry a little notebook & pencil round with him like the rest of us do.

And you can use your 'sharp' voice if you wish.