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Normal to feel weirdly emotional after a hospital stay?

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Ginnnny · Yesterday 15:57

As the title says really; I was admitted unexpectedly to hospital and ended up being there for almost two weeks. Thankfully close enough to my home that DP and older DC could visit daily around school and work. I was discharged yesterday, and I’m an emotional wreck. Can’t stop thinking about it, my teenagers have asked me to stop talking about it, tried to make a joke about it and ended up in tears.

im not going to say what I was in for but it was an emergency admission for assessment to see if an operation was required - it wasn’t, thankfully, but I was quite unwell.
i think I’m just struggling to process the whole thing… will that pass? Is this some kind of trauma response?

So confused!

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MissMoneyFairy · Yesterday 16:05

It's completely understandable and normal to feel like this, you were unwell, probably in pain, unsure of what was going on, in unfamiliar surroundings with noise, people you don't know, being prodded and poked about. It will pass, it's a shame your teens can't just let you talk about it but they're not usually the most empathetic at the best of times are they. Speak to your GP, maybe short term sleeping tablet might help, I hope you're feeling better. Your body produced a lot of adrenaline, now it's all calming down, you're bound to feel apprehensive, try not to let it overwhelm you, be kind to yourself and let the teens look after you for a bit.

mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · Yesterday 16:10

I think that is quite normal, especially as it was an unplanned sudden admission, nearly 2 weeks (aeons for the patient) in the weird closed inpatient situation surrounded by sick strangers and getting little proper sleep all that time. I have always felt very unsettled on discharge and taken some days to become myself again and stop reliving the hospital atmosphere. . Give yourself time, sleep a lot and watch something mindless on telly.

HumberBridge2 · Yesterday 16:11

My DH was admitted unexpectedly and it made him quite anxious for a while afterwards. He was admitted for a cardiac issue and at one point asked me to listen to his chest to make sure it sounded ok 😅 I'd say be kind to yourself, and give your body and mind time to recover Flowers

Lomonald · Yesterday 16:11

It is absolutely normal to feel like that ime, i have a medical condition although ive not been in for years, but i always felt odd when I was discharged, am sure it is just adrenalin and cortisol settling down, because you are on high alert all the time.

Try and rest and decompress, your children were probably unsettled because you were not there and frightened about what could happen, that will be why they don't want to talk about it. Take care hopefully you will feel more yourself soon.

Owninterpreter · Yesterday 16:13

It sounds normal to me. I had a stay in critical care this year and I burst in to tears when they discharged me as I was frightened about what would happen if I declined rapidly at home. I thought logically id be thrilled to be going home but we are a funny old species.

If your children are fed up, does your employer, if you have one, have one of those employee support lines thdy might help you process it.

AcrobaticCardigan · Yesterday 16:17

OP I was also unexpectedly in hospital earlier this year seriously unwell and was also very emotional for a while following. I kept crying over little things for at least a week following.

Lomonald · Yesterday 16:21

Ok so The Internet says it is normal and calling it post hospital syndrome! And there has been research done on it, so you are right for recognising something isn't quite right.

user47639820987 · Yesterday 16:39

Did you have a general anaesthetic? That can make people quite peculiar for some time afterwards.
Otherwise I guess it’s just a delayed reaction/release of stress etc. older people commonly get hospital acquired delirium so I suppose this is the younger persons version! Hope you’re feeling better soon.

madaboutpurple · Yesterday 17:40

I would advise you to get enough rest time. I am not surprised you are not feeling so good. I hope you improve before too long goes by.

Ginnnny · Yesterday 18:37

Ah these comments make me feel less like I’m losing my mind!

Im hoping to feel more myself in a few days once I’ve caught up on sleep; I know I was in the best place to get better but hospitals are the worst place to be when you need rest!

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Silverbirchleaf · Yesterday 18:39

Perfectly normal feeling. Give yourself some TLC time, and time to rest and recuperate.

SpuytenDuyvil · Yesterday 19:47

Be gentle with yourself. My DM said that when you leave the hospital you think you are "better," and you are. But your emotions will come in waves. Just ride it through and take all the time you need. You will get there.

Lomonald · Yesterday 19:52

Ginnnny · Yesterday 18:37

Ah these comments make me feel less like I’m losing my mind!

Im hoping to feel more myself in a few days once I’ve caught up on sleep; I know I was in the best place to get better but hospitals are the worst place to be when you need rest!

Just sleep as much as you can even if you are not sleeping rest is important, take yourself off to bed when you are feeling overwhelmed.

MoominVallie · Yesterday 20:07

Really normal and understandable.

Being an inpatient is a massive endurance test. Not only are you unwell/in pain/anxious/embarrassed, you have to tell random strangers personal information multiple times a day, wash and toilet more publicly, sleep in public and have no control over what and when you eat or sleep or wake up. I found the sleep deprivation very difficult.

Being exposed to other people's pain, fear, distress, and their bodily functions and foibles, plus having to have confidential conversations in their hearing is awful. I found dealing with other people's visitors and dramas and staff sniping etc all v stressful.

That's before you deal with the actual health stuff.

WhichCow · Yesterday 20:10

I had a very similar response after falling ill unexpectedly and ending up in intensive care. I self referred to talk therapy in the end and it was great to just say everything I needed to say and get some support in processing it all.

Your teenagers are just being teenagers, so I wouldn't take it personally.

Beamur · Today 03:22

I have recently been in hospital for a similar amount of time after an emergency surgery. It's a strange experience. Coming home felt like a huge relief but also quite scary.
I have quite a long recovery ahead too and that's a little daunting.
Feeling upset is entirely valid and it sounds like you still have a lot to process. Your teens perhaps are also dealing with some complex feelings and have no more capacity to deal with your emotional needs right now.
I'm very conscious that this episode has been enormously stressful for my family too.
Do you have any friends or maybe some counselling could help?

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