Four events this week at school during working hours…

We evidently disagree. My primary responsibility as a mother is not to provide financially, that is my husband’s responsibility. I am a mother, I hate the term parent, as a mother my primary responsibility is to nurture and care for my children, (care for them when they are sick, attend all school events, take them to all appointments, educate my children, clean for my children, cook for my children, care for their pets, host their friends, transport them to clubs).

I do not want to provide money, but time. Time is everything. Time is what this horrible, frantic, rushed, stressed modern society is sorely lacking in. Our family has opted out of that horrendous lifestyle.

When are they supposed to have them? They can't have an open classroom , assemblies etc in the evening the children won't be there! Would you prefer schools didn't invite parents to any events? If you can't go that's fair enough but sometimes I think schools can't win. If parents aren't invited to anything parents complain, if they are invited they still complain!

One of the many reasons why I decided to be a SAHM…none of this stuff is new or a surprise prior to deciding to have children, it’s always been the case that parents are invited in to school events and expected to support their child’s learning. I saw firsthand as a Reception teacher how upset children are when nobody shows up for their events, and knew that would never be the case for mine. Children require emotional support and genuine interest to thrive.

Parents expect schools to pick up way too much stuff nowadays, including changing nappies and teeth cleaning! Schools should however give parents adequate notice about events, as many will rearrange things where they can. This stuff is important.

This discussion is about school, not nursery events.

I was a Reception teacher for 10 years. After every assembly I led/Christmas play I directed where nobody showed up, both myself and my TA had children holding our hands sobbing, and the odd child who was very angry, that nobody bothered to turn up, and rightly so. I know what I experienced and saw thank you very much!

One of the many reasons why I decided to be a SAHM…none of this stuff is new or a surprise prior to deciding to have children, it’s always been the case that parents are invited in to school events and expected to support their child’s learning. I saw firsthand as a Reception teacher how upset children are when nobody shows up for their events, and knew that would never be the case for mine. Children require emotional support and genuine interest to thrive.

Parents expect schools to pick up way too much stuff nowadays, including changing nappies and teeth cleaning! Schools should however give parents adequate notice about events, as many will rearrange things where they can. This stuff is important.

My brother does. And they have a mortgage in the SE.

The majority of teachers cannot afford to support their family on one wage.

One of the many reasons why I decided to be a SAHM…none of this stuff is new or a surprise prior to deciding to have children, it’s always been the case that parents are invited in to school events and expected to support their child’s learning. I saw firsthand as a Reception teacher how upset children are when nobody shows up for their events, and knew that would never be the case for mine. Children require emotional support and genuine interest to thrive.

Parents expect schools to pick up way too much stuff nowadays, including changing nappies and teeth cleaning! Schools should however give parents adequate notice about events, as many will rearrange things where they can. This stuff is important.

Poor kids!

Are you for real? “Try talking to a broader range of people”? Oh the irony 🤦‍♀️

He died before my children started school, so yeah, I was fine to attend school events then.

Genuinely believe what you like, but you clearly have zero idea of the level of care many adults across the UK, who you look down your nose at, provide. Children that age don’t have school and can sleep at other houses, it’s very flexible. It was short term, some do stuff like this for years. Try talking to a broader range of people.

In the evenings and during the night when you were delivering that round the clock care single handedly?

I mean, how did you find the time to go to school events?

In the evenings and during the night when you were delivering that round the clock care single handedly?

I mean, how did you find the time to go to school events?

Obviously then the other would work, it’s really not the big deal people on here make it out to be though.

I don’t actually know anybody in a two-earner family who could sustain their so-called independence without their husband, they’ve all massively over-stretched themselves financially and would struggle wayyy more than me.

Plenty also way too dependent on parents/ILs, several have had to switch childcare arrangements due to their ill heath…that rarely gets mentioned…but it gets sorted. I’d rather be dependent financially on my husband, and would find it highly embarrassing to have my mother taking my kids to A & E, washing my clothes and cooking my dinner at 40- I know plenty of women who do this, it is thoroughly embarrassing. I stopped needing my mother to do stuff like this at 15!

Easily…took them with me as I moved between the 2. In the real world, loads of people do stuff like this.

How did you look after your children if your relative in another household needed round the clock care?