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Are there some things that you cannot learn?

105 replies

Frequency · Yesterday 21:35

I don't mean things like how to be a morning person, or to change your life, or think like a rich person, or any other such bollocks. I mean skills that should be learnable, things that have a right way and a wrong way, like, for example, Blender.

I'm WFH now, so I have more spare time in the evening. I decided it would be fun to learn how to make animations - nothing serious, just funny little animated people doing silly things.

After two hours of trying to turn blobs into something that vaguely resembled a human, I realised you can download free people-shaped blobs. Three hours into trying to get my people-shaped blob to move like a person, I realised you can download special control rigs. Another hour later, my people-shaped blob was no longer people-shaped. Poor Blob was a distorted smudge across the screen.

It then occurred to me that Blender was not going to be one of the things I could learn while doing and by reading online tutorials, and I should probably start from the basics.

I've spent two and a half hours tonight trying to flatten a cube. In spite of spending two and a half hours on this, I am only 20 minutes into the course because I have to keep going back. The lady from the video course is making me feel stabby, and it is no longer fun; it is the opposite of fun, but I will not be beaten by a software that a primary-aged child could master.

Is it me? Is it Blender? Are there just some things that some people will never be able to master no matter how determined they are?

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AndSomeForFancyDress · Yesterday 21:39

Instagram. I just can't figure it out and I don't know why. Everyone else in the world seems to be able to master it.
And Greek. That bloody alphabet...

Eyesopenwideawake · Yesterday 21:39

Knitting. Never did. Never will.

ShakaWhenTheWallsFell · Yesterday 21:41

My left from my right. Always have to think about it

Hatty65 · Yesterday 21:41

Yes. There are.

I can knit but many, many people have tried to teach me to crochet and I just can't get my head round it. I feel cack handed with one needle.

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 21:43

Crochet. I just cannot do it. I have tried several times. I was told it is easier than knitting, which I already do.

I was lied to.

Shelledwarrior · Yesterday 21:46

Names. I have to put sooooo much effort into remembering them. Once I’m not seeing that person regularly then they disappear like smoke. Since I teach this is a real problem!

TeenLifeMum · Yesterday 21:48

Trampolining. Lesson one: Bounce up and down on the cross… me: bounces everywhere but the cross.

PermanentTemporary · Yesterday 21:48

It does get harder as you age imo.

I generally think it’s motivation more than ability. I attempted to learn Chinese and couldn’t get anywhere with it, but I don’t even have a trip planned so it cost me nothing to give up.

DustyMaiden · Yesterday 21:49

I have never believed there is anything I couldn’t learn. I am very patient. My DH said I could never learn to do art . I’m improving all the time.

TeenLifeMum · Yesterday 21:53

I do remember being at a friend’s house and her dc age 8 had a pogo stick and at one point in the evening dd1 was pogoing perfectly (same age). The dc who owned it then tried and failed and got frustrated that my dd could do it and she couldn’t. Her dad pointed out that my DD had patiently practiced over more than an hour so her 2 minutes wasn’t likely to have the same result.

ScottBakula · Yesterday 21:54

Maths
It just doesn't make sense to me at all , even very basic maths.

MyNewestUsername · Yesterday 21:54

I can’t read music. At school I felt like the only one who couldn’t. I’ve tried as an adult and I can’t do it

Mnd666 · Yesterday 21:55

AndSomeForFancyDress · Yesterday 21:39

Instagram. I just can't figure it out and I don't know why. Everyone else in the world seems to be able to master it.
And Greek. That bloody alphabet...

I am exactly the same with Instagram…I just don’t get it 🤦‍♀️

Philandbill · Yesterday 21:56

To sing in tune. To the regret of all around me I'm still trying....

RaraRachael · Yesterday 22:01

I have Instagram and follow people and greyhounds but I haven't a clue how to post on it. Everybody I know posts videos with music, captions and things to tap and see thd finished result etc but I wouldn't know where to start.

Goonie1 · Yesterday 22:10

AndSomeForFancyDress · Yesterday 21:39

Instagram. I just can't figure it out and I don't know why. Everyone else in the world seems to be able to master it.
And Greek. That bloody alphabet...

I’m learning Greek and think the alphabet makes sense in terms of how you then pronounce the words! The first sound of the letters “name” is how you pronounce it in the word….in the main!

Radishcinnamon · Yesterday 22:11

I think we’re in an age where everyone expects to be an autodidact, but we have forgotten that good teachers aren’t always the people who are naturally brilliant at the thing . Often it takes someone who has struggled to master a thing themselves to be able to teach it really well, as they understand the hurdles . It feels like we should be able to learn everything by YouTube but in reality sometimes we need a really clever real person. Some people absolutely do not , they thrive in the current climate. Everything I have mastered I have been patiently taught and learning this about myself has been quite the revelation. I believe you can master most things with the right teacher .

Goonie1 · Yesterday 22:11

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 21:43

Crochet. I just cannot do it. I have tried several times. I was told it is easier than knitting, which I already do.

I was lied to.

I can crochet too.
Maybe I’m just weird 😂

DrToothandtheElectricMayhem · Yesterday 22:12

TeenLifeMum · Yesterday 21:48

Trampolining. Lesson one: Bounce up and down on the cross… me: bounces everywhere but the cross.

Thanks for the chuckle at this, @TeenLifeMum

Phineyj · Yesterday 22:12

I tried to learn Japanese during lockdown on Duolingo and I just couldn't progress with it. I couldn't tell the symbols apart adequately. Odd as I can read music fluently, draw accurately and read a bit of Greek, so it's not lack of visual awareness.

ChaosDreamV2 · Yesterday 22:14

Another one for crochet 🙈 I just can’t do it! I’m left handed but can knit the “normal” right handed way. Cannot crochet with either my left or right hand 🙄

DontSayItsOver · Yesterday 22:15

I consider myself a fairly competent computer user and a decent learner. Trying to learn Blender made me physically sick. I cried multiple times. I gave up after two days.

AI is obviously terrible and stealing our job's and making us dumber etc, but we’re not far from being able to make 3D models from plain text instructions and I am grateful for that.

TheChosenTwo · Yesterday 22:16

Play the piano 😭
I tried to teach myself as a kid and then again as an adult but my hands just don’t work together. No co-ordination. I also can’t really ‘dance’ although I’ve no desire to master that as a skill. To be fair I’ve no longer got the desire to master playing the piano but both my nephews passed grade 7 and listening to them play is absolutely beautiful.

TokyoSushi · Yesterday 22:17

Also instagram, the captions, the matching music, I just can’t do it!

likeitshard · Yesterday 22:17

I think things that require a specific talent or skill- art, sports, dance , singing, comedy etc can be learnt in a limited way but with out talent you are never going to excel in it.
a lot of things - learning a language, instrument etc are better learnt young. The older you get the harder it is to develop new skills although not impossible.
I am hopeless at directions, remembering faves/ names, thinking under pressure.

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