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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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dd 15 thinks she's pregnant feel sick!!

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EverythingHappens4aReason · 07/10/2014 16:47

My dd has just told me she has taken a test and its +ve but her period is only due today how reliable are these so early? She is as stunned as I am. GP booked for Thurs but apart from that I'm lost :-(

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 07/10/2014 16:49

That must be a big shock for you both. The tests are pretty reliable as far as I know. Have you started discussions with her about what she wants to do?

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TheBiscuitStrikesBack · 07/10/2014 16:50

You don't get false positives, I hope you are both okay. It's a time for comfort and reassurance, try your best not to get angry with her.

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Lj8893 · 07/10/2014 16:50

From my understanding, its very rare to get a false positive.

and for you both, you must be in such shock.

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ToAvoidConversation · 07/10/2014 16:52

How scary for both of you. I really hope you feel able to be there for her. Come and have a rant on here instead.

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DeputyPecksBentBeak · 07/10/2014 16:53

It's more common to get a false negative than a false positive. The home tests are usually so accurate that GP's don't bother now.

Maybe get another one for her to take in the morning?

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Theselittlelightsofmine · 07/10/2014 16:53

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EverythingHappens4aReason · 07/10/2014 16:55

I'm not angry with her just very disappointed. We had the big talk only weeks ago about going on the pill. She is SO clever and predicted A* at school I just feel sick. I'm currently going through a divorce so timings not perfect but blimey when is?

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TheFirstOfHerName · 07/10/2014 16:55

Do you have anyone in real life you can offload to (someone you trust enough to confide in)? Your head must be reeling.

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Trollsworth · 07/10/2014 16:57

She doesn't have to have a baby. This can be fixed. It is good that she has caught this earlier, it gives her more time for decisions.

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RabidFairy · 07/10/2014 16:57

You can get false positives however the tests are very very accurate if used correctly. Given her age I would ask the gp to perform a test there; I had a test at the gps recently. Has she said what she intends to do about it?

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flanjabelle · 07/10/2014 16:57

Just be there for her. as scared as you are, she is going to be a hundred times more. Help her look at her options in a non judgemental way. Sorry you are going through this.

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EverythingHappens4aReason · 07/10/2014 16:57

What do I do now? Take her to the GP?

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TheBiscuitStrikesBack · 07/10/2014 16:59

I would go to the chemist and get a First Response test - read the instructions together and get her to test again. That way you can be confident you're dealing with an actual problem.

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Teeb · 07/10/2014 16:59

She has options, she is very young.

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EverythingHappens4aReason · 07/10/2014 17:00

I've told her not to make any decisions until we've been to the gp Thurs then we'll have to look at her options. Can't believe I'm having this conversation!!

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RabidFairy · 07/10/2014 17:00

You say you have an apt booked for Thursday so go to that. If you want to see it for yourself before then get her another test.

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Christmascandles · 07/10/2014 17:01

How scary for both of you. I would suggest another test in the morning and you read the result too. I remember reading my positive line as the control line once!
However if it was one of the digital ones then I guess it's correct...
False positives are unusual. She does have options.
She'll make the right decision

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Primaryteach87 · 07/10/2014 17:01

Oh gosh! Very unlikely to be a false alarm I'm afraid unless she has drastically misread the test ( unlikely!). Be there for her and help her to make any decisions she needs to - have baby, abortion or adoption. Try, if you can, to let her really explore all options without pressuring her into any decision. She needs your support but it has to be her choice. That said, you will need to rant, rave and rage to someone else unrelated to it in order to maintain a calm, caring, rational facade!!

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ShadowsShadowsEverywhere · 07/10/2014 17:02

Do another test with her to make absolutely sure.

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Fixerupperz · 07/10/2014 17:02

Have you seen the test yourself OP is there a chance it could be an evaporation?

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zillionare · 07/10/2014 17:03

You must be so shocked. It sounds as if you are saying all the right things to your DD and being there for her.

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littlemonster · 07/10/2014 17:03

Yes GP. The quicker you can make reality sink in the better. Let her talk.

From an outsider's point of view its a testament to your relationship that you know so quickly. I imagine (and know) the temptation to hide teen pregnancy and refuse to face reality is great.

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molesbreath · 07/10/2014 17:05

Oh dear what a shock for you both.

If the test showed positive then that's that she is pregnant.

I'm not necessarily sure a doctors appointment is needed just yet. Give yourselves a couple of days headspace to think all options through, there are options out there.

What she needs most of all from you now is time to talk, support and probably a good cry. Whilst you may feel like shouting and swearing it won't do any good in the long run.

I wish you well.

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purplemeggie · 07/10/2014 17:06

Sending you a big hug. It will be okay. She has choices and whatever she decides, it won't be the end of her life/chances. I had two young relatives that were in a similar position. One decided to go ahead (and is now grown up with 3 dc and a successful life and career) and the other decided not to, and is equally okay.
It's a big shock, but it says a lot about the strength of your relationship that she has felt able to confide in you so quickly, when her head must be reeling too. Be strong for her and you will come through this even closer.