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Do you have questions about creating positive bathroom habits and routines? Ask toilet training expert Amanda Jenner - £200 voucher to be won

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LibbyMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 21-Dec-20 10:41:17

Please note, questions have been answered and the expert is no longer available to answer new questions.

According to toilet training expert Amanda Jenner, 73% of parents don’t think there is enough advice when it comes to toilet training*. During lockdown, there has been a huge increase of children losing their confidence when going to the toilet which has led to an increase of older children having more frequent toilet accidents in and out the home. With this in mind, Amanda will be here to answer your questions between 4th-8th January.

Here’s some more information on Amanda Jenner: “Amanda is known as The UK’s Toilet Training Expert. Throughout her career, she has worked closely with families and the education sector, giving advice and guidance during key stages of child development.
She hosts regular live clinics, debates and campaigns to help parents talk about their children’s toilet habits and behaviour throughout their early childhood."

Here’s what Andrex has to say: “Andrex® wants to help your family along its unique toileting journey with a little fun along the way. Over the next few months, we will be launching a series of tips, tools and advice to help you and your child grow in confidence, establishing healthy bathroom habits and routines. As we know those positive behaviours we develop as a child will last a lifetime.
We’re excited to join your family on this adventure.”

Whether you‘d like to know how you can teach your child healthy bathroom habits or you're concerned that lockdown has knocked your child’s confidence when using the toilet independently, ask Amanda your questions on this thread.

All who post a question (regardless of whether it is answered or not) will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £200 voucher for the store of their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!


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*Survey conducted by Amanda’s Potty Training Academy

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BristolMum96 Mon 21-Dec-20 14:18:53

How do you get a 2/3 year old to wipe their own bottom? It seems logistically impossible for my child as her arms simply aren't long enough to reach! How old before you can stop checking they've done a good job ?

Bloatstoat Mon 21-Dec-20 15:03:15

Toilet training my 5 year old has been a nightmare. He still never goes to the toilet of his own accord, we have to tell him (usually nag him for ages), even when it's obvious he needs to go - left to himself he just won't go and is happy to have an accident. We have a routine of going 20 mins after a meal and timers through the rest of the day, but how can we get him to take responsibility for his own toileting?

ConquestEmpireHungerPlague Mon 21-Dec-20 15:39:54

I'd like to know when teenage boys finally start to leave the toilet looking as clean as they found it! Any strategies? Nagging doesn't seem to work but I doubt they'd respond to star charts and rewards any more!

CordeliaScott Mon 21-Dec-20 15:56:46

DS(4) is fully able to use the toilet but it seems every night as soon as we put the nappy on for bed he has a poo in it. When we offer rewards he'll use the toilet instead but then rapidly gets bored and goes back to using the nappy. (I'm not certain how much is trying to extend bedtime)
Any thoughts?

strawberry2017 Mon 21-Dec-20 17:12:33

DD is potty trained but any advice on how to make the transition from the potty to the toilet?

Gremlin1 Mon 21-Dec-20 18:46:36

My three and a half year olds does wees on the toilet and is dry at night but still does all his poos in his nappy and refuses to do them on the toilet - has been going on since March. Any advice?


Ashhead24 Mon 21-Dec-20 19:35:35

We've pretty much cracked it during lockdown but had to use tonnes of bribes (sweets) as she was incredibly resistant to even sitting on the potty. Is this the best way to do it or is it better to wait until they're willing? She was definitely ready (dry until nappy went on for naptime and then dry until nappy for bedtime) but getting past the psychological hurdle or the potty was really difficult.

WilmaJean Mon 21-Dec-20 19:52:39

I'm also keen how to break down the psychological issues of doing a poo on the toilet. We've moved from doing all poos in his pants (wees on the toilet he got quickly) to having the last 3 weeks being mostly successful on the toilet, however there still is the occasional accident in his pants ... although it seems like a deliberate action rather than an actual accident.

ReindeerHooves2020 Mon 21-Dec-20 20:51:01

My nearly 3 year old has been potty ready (psychologically) for a while now but every time I try to train, he gets distressed and shouts that he doesn't like pants.

He will do some wees on the potty but poos seem to upset him. I've tried the usual lots of water and fibre so I'm sure it's not that. I'm certain he just doesn't want to. He started to withhold on our last attempt and so I gave in and packed the potty away.

Now he's teaching 3 and a big lad, I feel judged that he's not potty trained. He really just doesn't want to! Any tips?

BrizzleMaverick Mon 21-Dec-20 21:02:28

My three year has been dry for wee since last summer and will happily go on the potty and will now go on the house toilet for a wee. He refuses however to poo on either the potty or the toilet. If we catch him in time we can get him to sit on the potty (although it is a battle) and a few times he has gone and is really excited that he has done a poo but most of the time he will go in his pants which is not ideal at home let alone when we are out. We have tried a reward chart for poos and that worked a little but we still had to physically sit him on the potty. He still wears a nappy to bed and is happy to poo in this.
He was constipated last month as he refused the potty so much, luckily this is ok now but still poos in his pants 😫

My elder son also refused to poo on the potty when he was three and would hold on until a nappy at bedtime. This was solved quickly once he decided he did not want to wear a nappy at night, he finally used the potty and all was good.

I'm at a lose as to what to do to solve this, is it just wait until he does it for himself and put up with the poo in the pants until then??

Mummyto3gorgeousgirlies Mon 21-Dec-20 22:37:08

I have three daughters - my eldest two were dry at night within a few months of being dry during the day aged in the 2s. My youngest also was dry in the day in her 2s but now is 4.5 and in reception and can't go the night. To get her out of pull ups we starting to "lift her" at about 11pm and that works but whenever we try to see if she can go the night or will wake up herself to go she ends up waking with a wet bed. Have I trained her into a bad habit with lifting or is she simply not ready yet? What do I try now?

CrocodileFondue Mon 21-Dec-20 23:59:14

My DS seems to have no clue when he needs to go, I think at four, he should be getting definite signals but he has nothing.
He will use the loo when you make him sit on it but otherwise just has constant accidents. I'm at a loss how to get him to learn the feeling of a full bladder or recognise the pressure of needing a poo.

MrsFrTedCrilly Tue 22-Dec-20 01:40:30

How old do you think a child is before they can clean their bottom properly, looking forward to the day when I do t get the call!!!

Cotswoldmama Tue 22-Dec-20 05:25:18

Any tips for trying to get a 4 nearly 5 year old to be dry over night?

emphasisofmatter Tue 22-Dec-20 07:24:56

Also looking for advice on how to have 4yo stay dry in the night. She drinks a lot during the day and goes to the toilet very often and just doesn't seem to have a big enough bladder to retain much liquid including overnight. Will it just come in time as she grows?

Quietvoiceplease Tue 22-Dec-20 09:05:41

How do you encourage a child not to use quite as much toilet paper when they go to the loo? Honestly, my child lets the roll run for ages and uses metres of the stuff even for a wee. Any tips? My reminders that (a) its not necessary, and (b) its not great for the environment, don't seem to work. My normal weekly shopping looks like I'm stockpiling toilet paper, waaay before Covid struck. (To note: DD is 16)!!

lovemyflipflops Tue 22-Dec-20 10:12:46

My DS (2) has been dry for 6 months now - but on the latest Corona Virus news (and perhaps Christmas) has started wetting at night - I don't want to go back to pull ups - what is your advise ?

pushchairprincess Tue 22-Dec-20 10:26:21

My DD (4) has been potty trained since the age of 2 - but even with a training seat on the toilet is terrified of the toilet and still prefers the potty for everything. He will use a urinal at nursery, but never the toilet - any tips ? I have tried multiple strategies rewards, new training seats ....

alwaysataldi Tue 22-Dec-20 11:42:26

My DS 4 has been clean and dry since he was 2 , but doesn't clean his bottom properly, and waits for me to wipe, I have tried different toilet paper and wet wipes - at school he just pulls his pants up and leaves it. Any tips for helping him learn to clean (I think he has a phobia of poo on his hands)

UpOnDown Tue 22-Dec-20 20:02:59

what's the best age for toilet training?

elizaco Tue 22-Dec-20 20:12:00

If potty training doesn’t seem to be going well should I give up and try again in a while, and if so how long? Or just keep persevering?

LITTLEMUTLEY23 Tue 22-Dec-20 20:12:52

I found my daughter (14) very easy to toilet train, my nearly 3 year old son is really struggling he just doesn't have any interest. We have tried rewards, being positive etc. He knows when he is needing/ having a wee/poo but if he is doing something more interesting will not go on the toilet. Should we continue or leave and try again in a few months. We don't want to make it a negative experience.

sharond101 Tue 22-Dec-20 20:42:58

How do I encourage my 5year old to poo at school. She comes home with tummy ache every day as she holds it in.

ItsCovidOutThereThisChristmas Tue 22-Dec-20 20:49:25

I would also like any tips on teens leaving the loo in a good state

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