My husband of 27 years (!) has a very high sex drive. I’d be happy with twice a week, he’d be happy with twice a day...
Anyway...
His overriding desire is to wake to me “playing with him”. I’ve never done this for various reasons; not being awake at the right time, him facing away from me, just not wanting to, insomnia not always being cured by sex, resentment of his mess etc..
I will say that he hasn’t been faithful to me and nearly left me for someone else a few years ago.
It’s got to the point that he feels “hurt” because I haven’t done this over the 31 years we’ve been together. I don’t feel I can be honest when I wake in the early hours due to stress (work related issues, him not able to work because he’s self employed and his work has basically dried up, kidults being less than helpful, heart palpitations etc) and he seems to expect me to jump on him.
Questions.
How much is enough sex?
Is he being reasonable?
Help! This is an ongoing issue and I always feel he expects too much and he feels I give too little.
For info, I do all the cooking, most of the shopping and housework although he does most of the diy and lots of washing up. He is very. messy though and doesn’t put things away. But he is great at presents, namely jewellery.
What do you think?
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Bonkersblonde · 06/07/2020 01:27
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