First time poster looking for support. I discovered by accident this week that my husband has been cheating on me for about 18 months. He confessed when I asked him about a hotel booking I’d found in his name.
He says he has broken it off - claims he did it the day afterwards - and that he wants us to remain together. Is suggesting couples counselling but is trying to schedule this for times which would be easy for him to attend without raising any eyebrows but would mean I’d have to leave work early each session. Didn’t consult me about what time of day would work for me, didn’t show me the text he says he sent breaking it off with the other woman.
I’m all over the shop. Have had to take a few days off work as I’m just floored by the whole thing and keep bursting into tears.
Not sure what advice I need or want but have no one in real life to talk to about this and no idea what I want to do - stay or leave. Financially I think we’d be able to make things work but I have 3 kids with my husband but no family who would support me through this emotionally and a demanding job. Until Monday I’d have said my husband was my life partner and best friend and I just want to wind the clock back and for this not to have happened.
He’s weeping and claiming to feel guilty and ashamed - but that’s how he feels because he was caught not how he was feeling when he came home on Monday night to discover his secret was out. And are his tears because he’s had to break with her (if he even has actually done that?)
So far all I’ve managed to do is have a check up at SH clinic to make sure he hasn’t passed anything horrible on to me. What else do I need to be doing or thinking about?
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Katrinawaves · 16/10/2019 16:06
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