Have never posted on relationships before but could really use some clarity about whether I’m being ridiculous or not. Dh and I have been together about 20 years. We met after uni but often discussed our uni experiences, including where we’d lived etc. In conversation with mil today I mentioned something about his flat in uni and she looked really confused, before saying that he had lived at home (under an hour away) throughout and commuted.
He could have told me this at the time, but lied instead - or at the very least exaggerated staying over with a friend now and then into it being where he lived.
I’m upset about being lied to. He has form for minor lies to avoid trouble - eg saying he’s already posted something when I know he hasn’t, but nothing like this.
I’m also upset as it means he basically went from his mum to his ex to me, with only a year as a singe man in between. This explains a lot about his expectations re wifework.
I brought this up tonight and he is denying lying, claiming I am ending it (since I said I don’t trust him) and has gone off to sleep in the spare room.
I don’t want to split up. I also don’t want to pretend this is ok.
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Dh has lied about something from years ago - how bothered should I be?
Thrownbythis · 19/05/2019 23:13
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