Right. Bloody hell.
Ok so DP and I have been together for 4 years. We’ve got a baby together as I have an older son from a previous relationship.
I’ve always worked but he used to earn a lot more than I did, when we first moved in together.
I currently pay for the house, all bills, all shopping, all kids stuff, the car is in my name - everything. He’s chosen to only work 2 days a week because he doesn’t like it and I haven’t seen financial help for months and months.
He bought one vest, a cot and a £50 second hand pram for the baby. I’ve bought everything else. I pay for days out. He pays his own phone bill, but used my spare phone for months that I’d topped up.
I can’t actually drive but I’ve paid for the car and he drives it everywhere. When the baby hated the car seat he refused to take us anywhere so I got the bus and walked with poor health.
If I mention it I’m out of order and when I said he was selfish he called me a vindictive fucking bitch. Whilst I was feeding our baby. He gets so angry all the time. We split up over his temper just before baby was born, he sai he’d work on it but didn’t.
He’s not so much violent to me but will shout and swear and crash about. He “accidentally” threw a toaster at me when I was early pregnant. I’m not allowed to mention that either.
I do everything for the kids and the house. I cook and clean, though it’s never good enough.
He’s just bought himself some new headphones and said last night he’s going on new £40pm supplements.
Tip of the iceberg. Apparently im snappy but if I am it’s because im ducking tired. As for intimacy even if I wasn’t tired I cringe at the thought, because I hate his temper so much.
Am I being a total fucking mug or what?
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I’m a mug, aren’t I?
FeelTheNoize · 11/08/2018 20:19
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