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Why is my boyfriends friend lying?

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Liley123 · 25/05/2018 21:28

Two weeks ago me and my boyfriend were drinking with his work friends (he started his new job two months ago) and his friend kept asking me what I do for my job, what sort of music I like and what I do in my spare time. My boyfriend was talking about what me and him do together and his friend, let’s call him bee, started to say “if I was your boyfriend” but got cut off by my boyfriend before he could finish his sentence. All night he was making me laugh and when I left I said by to everyone and when I was half way out the door he said “bye then liley” to which I replied “I said bye to everyone” he said “only to your boyfriend” so I said “bye bee” and he said “thank you, that’s better”. The next day I caught him staring at me through a fence then added him on Facebook the next day which he still hasn’t accepted.

A few days after I told my boyfriend that I caught him looking and he said I was probably other thinking and that he might have just been looking to see who was there. He said bee mentioned that I’d added him and asked him why I had.

I’ve just spoke to bee and he said “sorry I’m not being ignorant, I’ve just seen your friend request” which is obviously a lie. Why would he lie?

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niknac1 · 25/05/2018 21:32

I wouldn’t give it a second thought, it’s probably just how he’s phrased it, rather than lying is my take on it.

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Liley123 · 25/05/2018 21:35

But he said he hadn’t seen the friend request when a couple of weeks before he had

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TheAntiBoop · 25/05/2018 21:36

I'm not sure why you care?

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confusedc · 25/05/2018 21:38

Do you fancy him?

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Liley123 · 25/05/2018 21:39

He’s good looking but I’d never cheat

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confusedc · 25/05/2018 21:40

I may be wrong but seems to me your putting the feelers out. Dangerous game op

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Kelsoooo · 25/05/2018 21:40

You're blatantly racking him up on the back burner.

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lexi873 · 25/05/2018 21:40

You sound like you’d rather be with the mate

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kissthealderman · 25/05/2018 21:41

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Liley123 · 25/05/2018 21:41

What does putting the feelings out and racking him up on the back burner mean?

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 25/05/2018 21:41

If you're being very honest, why did you add him?

It seems that he may be somewhat uncomfortable; and perhaps thinks you fancy him? So he's mentioned it to your boyfriend; but hasn't accepted your request - and he's lied to you to try and avoid an awkward situation.

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Aspieparent · 25/05/2018 21:41

Hmmm something odd about this I think.

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Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 25/05/2018 21:42

He knows you fancy him and doesn't feel comfortable with that so doesn't want to encourage you or cross a line by accepting.

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confusedc · 25/05/2018 21:42

They both mean your very interested in the other guy and trying to see where you stand. But doing it in a 'I'm miss innocent, only a friend request' way.

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DextroDependant · 25/05/2018 21:43

Give the bloke a wide berth you are on dangerous ground.

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Blizzardagain · 25/05/2018 21:43

You're overthinking it and you sound like you fancy him.

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Kittykat93 · 25/05/2018 21:44

Why did you add him? If you're happy with your boyfriend I suggest backing off from his mate.

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FuckPants · 25/05/2018 21:51

Weird thread.

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WickedLazy · 25/05/2018 21:51

It sounds like you fancy his mate. But the kind of guy who hits on you, in front of your boyfriend, probably won't be future boyfriend material. Do you want to risk things with your guy, for a fling?

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WickedLazy · 25/05/2018 21:54

And he would lie, because he realises you've taken his flirty banter too seriously, thinks you want to cheat on his mate, and he feels awkward now.

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category12 · 25/05/2018 22:00

You're totally after him.

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franktheskank · 25/05/2018 22:03

He was looking at you through a gate???

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HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 25/05/2018 22:05

and his friend, let’s call him bee

Why would you call him bee?!

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PrivateDancers · 25/05/2018 22:08

Things I don't understand -

Why did you add him?
Where was he spying on you?
You clearly find him attractive but you're with your bf?
Are you quite young? (don't mean to sound patronising)

Your whole post suggests that you want us to say he likes you.

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Bubbles121 · 25/05/2018 22:09

I think we should all ask some more questions about what he was doing ... watching you through a fence... or that your BFs reaction seemed to indicate it's completely normal to peer through fences to see what you can see! HmmWhere were you when you caught him staring at you? Did you speak to him?

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