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Caught wanking over FB photos

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NutCase82 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:00:30

My friend has text me this morning outraged that she caught her BF and father of her child having a wank while looking at photos of a women on FB. She grabbed his phone and seen (by pressing back button) that he had been going from woman to woman and eventually taking her to the search bit where numerous women's names appeared.

This guy is not a nice guy anyway and she puts up with a lot of shit from him.

AIBU to think though, don't all men do this?

demirose87 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:01:50

No they don't.

Bluntness100 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:05:14

Eh. No I don't think all blokes do this. No. Why would you possibly think they do? confused

windchimesabotage Sun 25-Feb-18 10:06:00

Many men might wank..... but in general to pictures of women who have made those pictures in the knowledge that they will be wanked over.

Very different from wanking over pictures of people you may know who are oblivious to it. Thats not okay in my opinion. Shows complete lack of respect for womens wishes and autonomy.

You say hes generally a shitty person so this only adds fuel to that really.

'All' men may wank or at least the majority, but they dont 'all' do it in a rapey invasive way like this man is doing.

Bluntness100 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:08:18

Well of course most men masturbate. As do most women. I don't think that was the question. The question was do they masturbate over women's pics on face book, and the answer to that would be no.

newdaylight Sun 25-Feb-18 10:09:01

Hell no

Sullabylullaby Sun 25-Feb-18 10:10:24

What sort of creep wanks over FB pics?

windchimesabotage Sun 25-Feb-18 10:12:59

bluntness my post was in reply to the OP not to you! I agree with you!! Its not normal to wank to random pics on facebook.
Its a very different thing to wanking in general or even over actual pornography. It implies he thinks all women are there for his sexual kicks all the time regardless of their intention. Which is pretty disgusting.

MrsElvis Sun 25-Feb-18 10:15:12

There's so much free porn out there with far more explicit pics... so it's fucking weird he would choose Facebook photos of presumably women in his network. Not normal NO

NutCase82 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:20:34

Ok so if this was you in this situation WWYD?

She obviously confronted him and he turned it around saying that SHE had the cheek to accuse him (she actually caught him so no accusations required) when it's HER that's been cheating on him (totally untrue, not only does she not have the time or energy with a small baby, she just isn't cheating and never has cheated on him!).

Munchyseeds Sun 25-Feb-18 10:23:07

No they dont, he sounds delightful and SUCH a catch....I couldnt stay with someone like this

aftertheevent Sun 25-Feb-18 10:25:26

He's obviously nuts and an abusive gaslighter. She needs to think about leaving him. Bet there's more going on.

Idontdowindows Sun 25-Feb-18 10:34:10

She needs to get the fuck out.

category12 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:35:32

Over FB photos? Jeez.

fantasmasgoria1 Sun 25-Feb-18 10:37:11

No all men do not do this! My oh doesn’t wank either! Unless he does it at work lol even when single he wasn’t a prolific wanker! It sounds like he is a twat regardless so she should probably ltb!

MistressDeeCee Sun 25-Feb-18 10:40:13

I've never seen anything remotely near a wankable photo on FB. I've not lived, obviously. No, not all men trawl through FB seeking out photos of women to flog their log over. He's an odious creep, that's all.

windchimesabotage Sun 25-Feb-18 10:40:49

Id leave as quickly as possible because hes abusive. Accusing someone of cheating to deflect from whatever you have done and to make them doubt themselves and feel guilty, is massively manipulative and controlling.
Id get as far away from this man as possible.

Thymeout Sun 25-Feb-18 11:03:53

How on earth are pps so sure they know what men wank over or even that their man doesn't wank at all? Doesn't he use the bathroom or the shower? How do you know what he does there? I'm sure he wouldn't come out and tell you. It's private.

I don't know either, but I'm sure there's been research on it. Most men wank whether they're in a relationship or not. And why not over women they actually know and might have a bit of a fantasy about? It doesn't mean they're going to make a pass at them. Or that they find them more attractive than you.

It's creepy to think they might be doing it over a photo of you, but they could be doing it over anyone who's caught their eye at the school gate. That's just life. Disrespectful not to bother to make sure it's private, sure, like picking his nose or farting, but it sounds as if there's a lot more wrong with this bloke than what his gf has just found out about him.

TheNaze73 Sun 25-Feb-18 11:06:17

Well said Thymeout

Cleavergreene Sun 25-Feb-18 11:12:11

Yup. Common wanking material.....gardening monthly, home and garden and indoor furniture magazines.

That’s a joke btw, so settle down you lot.

No, no man I know would come close to wanking over randoms on fb. And accusing you of cheating because he got sprung is just a piss weak excuse. He sounds like a catch.

ClaryFray Sun 25-Feb-18 11:43:34

No. Creeps do that.

My DS dad had photos of me saved on his PC for that very same reason before we got together. Ewww!

italiancortado Sun 25-Feb-18 11:55:23

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MistressDeeCee Sun 25-Feb-18 12:08:02

The question isn't whether men wank or not tho, is it? It's whether it's normal for them to do it over FB. & No - I don't think FB as wank fodder is a norm. That's not the same as saying men don't wank...does anyone really give af if a man has a wank?

Thymeout Sun 25-Feb-18 12:40:55

But how do you know FB as wank fodder is not the norm? Have you done a survey? Would they even tell you the truth? What people choose as sexual stimulus is personal taste. I can easily believe that some men prefer pictures of real life people than some generic pin-up. Women, too.

Yes - it probably is more upsetting for their partners if they find out, which makes it more likely that it's not talked about. But all this stuff is buried deep in our lizard brains and not something we can be held responsible for, unless it progresses from fantasy to making a direct approach. I'd be more worried about just one woman than a selection.

MistressDeeCee Sun 25-Feb-18 13:42:15

Whilst I can't say men don't wank over FB in no way do I believe it's a norm.

Norm is the operative term here.

For men who are into porn id say porn films, yeah. It's 2018 sexual habits are discussed to the absolute enth all over Google, if it were a thing for men then it'd be a strong mention. As it is whilst some men wank over FB or the most random things/images - No its not a norm.

You could spend all day saying yes it is no it isn't about most things couldn't you.

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