My child has recently come home from their other parent's house, which is a long way away. We have shared care (though they are with me 80% of the time).
My child told me that my ex has bought a horsebox and will live in it when the house they are currently living in is sold (my ex is not the owner). My child is reliable, and I trust their understanding of the situation accurately reflects what my ex told them.
My ex has not mentioned this to me, other than writing they bought a "truck" in the handover diary (containing activities they have done together), which I initially assumed meant a pickup truck, to replace their car, till my child told me about the horsebox.
I emailed asking if they are intending to move, and they are being very evasive and only confirming they intend to move "next year". They have not said anything about it not being a house, and won't give me further details (which they must; that has been made clear to both of us in the past, in fact we each require permission from the other to move our child's home).
I don't inherently object to people living in horseboxes. I think it should be easier for people to live in cheaper and lower-impact ways like that. But I do have concerns about how my ex will consistently meet my child's needs in that situation. E.g. reliable water, light, heat, communication, a secure address (not being moved on) etc. Especially when they are not from a travelling background, so have no experience living that way, and presumably no contacts in the relevant community.
These concerns are not being answered because they won't even tell me they are intending to live in this horsebox, let alone discuss details like that with me.
I know this post is a bit vague in places, but I have to minimise the amount of information I give.
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Concerned my ex hasn't told me they are moving to a horsebox
maisonettedweller · 30/10/2017 23:13
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