So I have been really stupid , been married ten years together 18. Mid thirties so most of my life with same guy. Two children younger. Have had issues with DH for a while very different people becoming more apparent.
I work two party time jobs one public sector one in a bar - smart bar. Really enjoy it have a laugh etc. Anyway a regular I have got to know have s laugh . Walked home together a couple of times. STArted to like him he liked me. Jokey texts about jobs etc nothing esle. He works with premier footballers. I think what I knew was coming happened we kissed. He has a girlfriend too. Felt awful but alive and wanted - I know how wrong that is. We chatted etc nothing could happen stay friends all good but I still fancied him. Fast forward last night and another bar girl said he had asked for her number last week and Instagram account she’s just 18 attractive in a typical teen way. I am 37!! He’s 32.
I was furious I know I shouldn’t be no one knows about our friendship etc. I feel also like s total idiot like he spotted lonely fed up wife. I have no right to be jealous and it’s wrong that I am upset. It’s made me examine my relationship and given me a wake up call but where do I go from here. I haven’t told my H I don’t see the point. He hasn’t noticed anything different . We have house renovations busy lives children etc. He wasn’t worried about doing anything for our 10th wedding anniversary always worries about money doesn’t like debt.
He’s a great father and works hard I am just not sure if we have grown apart.
I know I was wrong with the other guy I still have to see him when I work and I feel like a twat for clearly being used. And treating my h like it. Where do I go from here
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I know how stupid I have been but I need help
Onthedowns · 14/10/2017 17:21
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