Probably more of a WWYD, but posting for quick traffic...
In a nutshell, dh's brother is getting married later this year. We have never met his fiance. The family is pretty spread out over the globe, but he has booked it for when his other brother (and family) are visiting there. The rest of the family live there already, so we are the only ones needing to travel.
Issues:
DH often works away and cannot yet say whether he will be available at that time (neither can I ever book a family hol in advance apart from Xmas).
He will likely have no annual leave available, but can 'buy' a few days leave if necessary.
One economy return ticket is priced around 900pounds on average at present, I imagine it will be more expensive if booked closer to the time, unless a last minute deal?
The kids will be at school, so would necessitate taking time off if we all went.
We very recently moved house, mortgage is expensive, and have little savings. Still getting used to the smaller monthly budget.
We would have to pay for accommodation at the venue.
I feel like a bit of a bitch and am reluctant to mention it again because of the reception I got, but I feel that although it would be lovely to attend, it is soo expensive for just a few days hol, most of which would be taken up by the wedding. Due to having to take days off school and paying for dh to take days off work we wouldn't be able to make a decent holiday of it. We had planned to go at a later date during the school holidays when we can have a few weeks to relax and make the long haul and expense more bearable. I'm also a bit reluctant to spend a big chunk of our savings and dh's leave if he goes alone, as it will mean our planned family hol will need to be put on hold for a bit.
DH is getting a bit of pressure to attend from his parents, but they (despite having the money) have not offered to help out in any way.
I can understand dh would like to be at his brother's wedding, but I honestly don't think it would make much difference to his brother (who he saw maybe once or twice a year when we lived in the same country, didn't phone) and bearing in mind the expense/timing/etc it feels like it isn't the best decision for our family as a whole. I didn't get to attend my sister's wedding either, (as I was pregnant at the time and couldn't fly) and it wasn't a big deal....
Any thoughts?
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WWYD re wedding
prioritymail · 02/03/2017 11:22
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