Kicked daughter out... I don't even feel bad...

[Nance60]

My daughter is of age btw to be removed from the family. She isn't at risk. Staying with a family member I believe. I want to feel bad, I just don't. I said some horrible things but she has seriously caused some major problems to this family and I just couldn't take it anymore.

[BratFarrarsPony]

of age? like over 18?

[Manumission]

Right.

[Sleepybunny]

It's sad for everyone involved I imagine.
Having time and space can really make a difference though.
Are you prepared to 'leave your door open' to her and mend the relationship in the future?

[Nance60]

She's over the age of 16

[dementedma]

Mine is 25 and I will crack one of these days and pack her fucking bags.....

[BratFarrarsPony]

so is she 16 or 17?

[Nance60]

What's that right for?

Sleepy, I don't know... I'm still trying to just think things through, that's why I'm here :)

[Soubriquet]

Why?

[PurpleDaisies]

Staying with a family member you believe? Don't you want to know she's safe even if you don't want her with you right now?

[Nance60]

She's very almost 18 (at the end of November) and because she dropped out of college... Lazes around the house. Refuses to help. She does nothing with her life and I've tried to help her by telling her about all the college courses there are but she just gives a bad attitude.

[Nance60]

Purple, a family member told me that she was with them but she may not be staying there tonight. However family member then said she could so not 100% sure but pretty sure she is

[EarlGreyT]

Manumission indeed

[Northernlurker]

Well I would want to know my child was definitely in a safe place. Be careful op, things easily said today will be much harder to take back tomorrow and harder still next week or next month.

[Soubriquet]

Well I think you've over reacted

But as long as your happy ey

[Nance60]

Hang on, of course I'm not happy but I've tried everything I can

[BratFarrarsPony]

Soubriquet don't start on OP when you do not know the full facts.
Of course it would help if we had some facts....but we dont. so in the meantime let's not start putting the boot in.

[PurpleDaisies]

However family member then said she could so not 100% sure but pretty sure she is

Why don't you phone them and check?

[Nance60]

She also says spiteful things.

Because I said I have washed my hands and if I start phoning she'll be laughing her head off that I am now phoning to ask about her

[PoldarksBreeches]

Sorry, you can't wash your hands of 17 year old children.

[PurpleDaisies]

Because I said I have washed my hands and if I start phoning she'll be laughing her head off that I am now phoning to ask about her

That's irrelevant-she's your child. Surely you're hoping to reconcile at some point? You could text the family member instead of phoning if you want to be less obvious.

[SmilingButClueless]

How do you know she's not at risk if you don't know where she is?

I obviously don't know what she's done to cause problems. But it must be pretty serious for a child to be kicked out of their home. Was there no way you could help her find somewhere else to stay if you really can't live with her?

[BratFarrarsPony]

well you cannot 'wash your hands' of your child, even if you did have to ask her to leave.
Phone her.
I am not judging you for throwing her out, but she will still need your support moral financial and other wise.

[PoppyPicklesPenguin]

Maybe you will get more sympathy if you give some examples about the situation.

Right now it reads as some very minor/normal teen behaviour.

[dementedma]

do the posters who are criticising without knowing all the facts, have teenage/adult children?

[CauliflowerSqueeze]

If she laughs her head off it would be for show. Maybe text to say you hope she's ok