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Kicked daughter out... I don't even feel bad...

(98 Posts)
Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 20:52:20

My daughter is of age btw to be removed from the family. She isn't at risk. Staying with a family member I believe. I want to feel bad, I just don't. I said some horrible things but she has seriously caused some major problems to this family and I just couldn't take it anymore.

BratFarrarsPony Fri 11-Nov-16 20:54:30

of age? like over 18?

Manumission Fri 11-Nov-16 20:55:22

Right.

Sleepybunny Fri 11-Nov-16 20:55:39

It's sad for everyone involved I imagine.
Having time and space can really make a difference though.
Are you prepared to 'leave your door open' to her and mend the relationship in the future?

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 20:55:41

She's over the age of 16

dementedma Fri 11-Nov-16 20:56:07

Mine is 25 and I will crack one of these days and pack her fucking bags.....

BratFarrarsPony Fri 11-Nov-16 20:56:10

so is she 16 or 17?

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 20:56:58

What's that right for? hmm

Sleepy, I don't know... I'm still trying to just think things through, that's why I'm here smile

Soubriquet Fri 11-Nov-16 20:56:58

Why?

PurpleDaisies Fri 11-Nov-16 20:57:41

Staying with a family member you believe? Don't you want to know she's safe even if you don't want her with you right now?

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 20:58:41

She's very almost 18 (at the end of November) and because she dropped out of college... Lazes around the house. Refuses to help. She does nothing with her life and I've tried to help her by telling her about all the college courses there are but she just gives a bad attitude.

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 20:59:32

Purple, a family member told me that she was with them but she may not be staying there tonight. However family member then said she could so not 100% sure but pretty sure she is

EarlGreyT Fri 11-Nov-16 20:59:36

Manumission indeed

Northernlurker Fri 11-Nov-16 21:01:43

Well I would want to know my child was definitely in a safe place. Be careful op, things easily said today will be much harder to take back tomorrow and harder still next week or next month.

Soubriquet Fri 11-Nov-16 21:03:20

Well I think you've over reacted

But as long as your happy ey hmm

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 21:04:21

Hang on, of course I'm not happy but I've tried everything I can

BratFarrarsPony Fri 11-Nov-16 21:04:41

Soubriquet don't start on OP when you do not know the full facts.
Of course it would help if we had some facts....but we dont. so in the meantime let's not start putting the boot in.

PurpleDaisies Fri 11-Nov-16 21:04:44

However family member then said she could so not 100% sure but pretty sure she is

Why don't you phone them and check?

Nance60 Fri 11-Nov-16 21:06:39

She also says spiteful things.

Because I said I have washed my hands and if I start phoning she'll be laughing her head off that I am now phoning to ask about her

PoldarksBreeches Fri 11-Nov-16 21:07:57

Sorry, you can't wash your hands of 17 year old children.

PurpleDaisies Fri 11-Nov-16 21:08:01

Because I said I have washed my hands and if I start phoning she'll be laughing her head off that I am now phoning to ask about her

That's irrelevant-she's your child. Surely you're hoping to reconcile at some point? You could text the family member instead of phoning if you want to be less obvious.

SmilingButClueless Fri 11-Nov-16 21:08:08

How do you know she's not at risk if you don't know where she is?

I obviously don't know what she's done to cause problems. But it must be pretty serious for a child to be kicked out of their home. Was there no way you could help her find somewhere else to stay if you really can't live with her?

BratFarrarsPony Fri 11-Nov-16 21:08:57

well you cannot 'wash your hands' of your child, even if you did have to ask her to leave.
Phone her.
I am not judging you for throwing her out, but she will still need your support moral financial and other wise.

PoppyPicklesPenguin Fri 11-Nov-16 21:09:04

Maybe you will get more sympathy if you give some examples about the situation.

Right now it reads as some very minor/normal teen behaviour.

dementedma Fri 11-Nov-16 21:09:51

do the posters who are criticising without knowing all the facts, have teenage/adult children?

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