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Do you ever call your OH on their work landline?

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RingOfFire79 Fri 11-Nov-16 16:34:13

So, this is an etiquette question mostly - I know it's tiny but it's been bugging me and I would like to know what others do (I'm a serious relationship newbie).

Occasionally I will need to speak to my partner while he's at work. I'll try him on his mobile but sometimes it's on silent and it's in his pocket. I'll then send a text asking him to call back and wait. Only if it's urgent, I have sometimes then rung his office landline and said - if he picks up - "hi, are you ok to talk? If so, can you ring me back on your mobile please?" That's it - we never have personal conversations on his landline. If he doesn't pick up, I just leave it and wait for him to ring me back.

Do you think this is ok? What do others do? I don't want to pester him at work (my ex sister-in-law used to ring my brother's secretary 20 times a day and shout at her when she couldn't be put through) but sometimes I do need to speak to him about an urgent/important matter.

This is my first serious relationship with someone in quite a while and I've forgotten what to do/what is reasonable! (Mum quite often rings me on my work landline about really, really random, non-urgent/important stuff and I don't really think that's appropriate but I love her and she's lovely (and my boss' wife does it to him lots) so it's ok grin )

NoCapes Fri 11-Nov-16 16:37:28

Only time I've ever rang (now Ex)P's work landline was when I was in labour

What is that urgent that you need to ring him at work, more than once?? confused

Pisssssedofff Fri 11-Nov-16 16:37:52

If only call if his children were in a and e or his house was on fire that sort of thing

NerrSnerr Fri 11-Nov-16 16:39:18

My husband has a direct line. I just checked my phone and it looks like I have called him once in the last month. He doesn't have his mobile during working hours so I'll usually just text him and he gets it as he leaves work. I only call at if I want him to pick up our daughter from nursery or similar.

LBOCS2 Fri 11-Nov-16 16:39:28

Yes, I do. I have his direct dial and we chat during his lunchtime which he often takes part of at his desk.

The company is quite relaxed about personal calls as long as you don't take the piss - and I know that firsthand as I used to work there!

AgentProvocateur Fri 11-Nov-16 16:39:43

We never contact each other at work, unless it's an email to check diaries. What could be so urgent that you'd need to call his mobile, text and call his landline?

Thisjustinno Fri 11-Nov-16 16:42:15

My colleagues wife 'phones him at his desk every day for no particular reason. I find it odd but wouldn't notice if it was occasionally.

RingOfFire79 Fri 11-Nov-16 16:44:19

It's happened about 6 times over the past 18 months. Usually to do with my dad's health (he's been at death's door a few times).

I text because I don't believe in voicemail and we occasionally call each other by accident so I want him to know I rang him for a reason.

TantrumsAndBalloons Fri 11-Nov-16 16:45:05

I don't think I have ever called she on his work phone.
I have the number in my phone though

I don't think he even knows my direct dial at work- I think he would have to do a search of his email to find it on my email signature

WipsGlitter Fri 11-Nov-16 16:46:05

You don't believe in voicemail?

confusedgrin

SirChenjin Fri 11-Nov-16 16:47:25

I do occasionally. DH is notorious for not answering his mobile - I don't think the old bloke has ever quite got used to the technology grin. I wouldn't phone just for a chat - I'm usually head down/arse up at work.

BackforGood Fri 11-Nov-16 16:47:39

I only ever have once that I can remember - when I got a call from the school about one of the dc injuring themselves, and trying to sort that out. I wouldn't ring anyone at work unless it were for a situation that needed to be dealt with then.
He doesn't get much signal at work so if I needed him then it would be the landline, yes.

Bluntness100 Fri 11-Nov-16 16:47:51

I've seldom if ever called my husbands work line. I assume if he has his mobile on silent it's because he's in a meeting, just say in uour text it's urgent and about uour dad.

NoCapes Fri 11-Nov-16 16:48:03

Sir head down arse up at work? What do you do?! shockgrin

NerrSnerr Fri 11-Nov-16 16:48:54

You don't believe in voicemail? I can assure you it's real.

RingOfFire79 Fri 11-Nov-16 16:49:32

Thanks - good tips/advice all! His mobile is always on silent but he usually has it in front of him on his desk.

TheDisreputableDog Fri 11-Nov-16 16:51:18

I do very occasionally, likely to be related to daughter' health if perhaps nursery have called me and he needs to pick her up or similar.

I think as long as it's not too frequent and you are not a nuisance it's fine. Sometimes you have an emergency/urgent situation that requires the call.

SirChenjin Fri 11-Nov-16 16:52:16

grin Capes

SellFridges Fri 11-Nov-16 16:52:50

Most people I know don't have landline work phones any more. It's all mobile, Skype or Lync and these are big corporations.

However, I used to work in an office where the wives would be calling constantly. Weird.

80sWaistcoat Fri 11-Nov-16 16:53:49

Often ring each other at the end of the day as he's just round the corner to see if he's ready to leave home and wants to walk back with me or vice versa. Usually on his mobile but on his direct dial landline if he hasn't picked up. Sometimes his secretary will answer. That's all fine.

Very rarely ring each other duing the day - maybe 6 times a year and only for something where one of us needs to know something right now. E.g Foo Fighters tickets just gone on sale - do you want some.... ? That kind of urgent and important.

crayfish Fri 11-Nov-16 16:55:36

We work at the same place (different departments) so phone each other's landlines multiple times a day! If we worked in different places I don't think I would ever call his landline unless the house was bruning down or something. I have never once phoned his work mobile - I know if he is not at his desk then he is not available to talk.

mangocoveredlamb Fri 11-Nov-16 16:57:18

I've just hung up having spoken to DH on his landline.
I only ever ring it if is urgent/health related, or if he rings me first.
For instance he had rung wanting to know some dates for DD's hospital appointments.

Flumplet Fri 11-Nov-16 17:00:34

Only if it's very important - he won't answer his mobile at work. Examples are when ds was sick and i needed help picking him up, when I was sent straight to hospital by my gp recently and also when I was negotiating an purchase of a property with an estate agent and wanted dh's opinion. Otherwise I will text or email for him to get back to me. I wouldn't call and ask what he wanted for tea for example.

whatsagoodusername Fri 11-Nov-16 17:01:31

I've never called the landline at DH's work - I only call his mobile when it's very urgent.

Most of the time I email him. I've found he responds much more quickly than texting.

StealthPolarBear Fri 11-Nov-16 17:01:40

I phone to coordinate diaries, I'll be away Monday can you do drop off/ pick up. He does the same. We could wait till we get home but diaries are both online so much easier at work and then means I can go on to booking tickets or whatever.

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