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Losing Susan to Mumsnet...

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Giblets83 Mon 12-Jan-15 22:35:57

Dear Mumsnet,

My lovely partner Susan (not real name) spends a huge amount of time on Mumsnet. I respect the advice, support and community she has found, but every time I look over she's on the ipad.

I wonder if I'm doing something wrong? Is there a healthy amount of time one should spend on Mumsnet a day? How much is too much?

I feel that combined with having a 10 month old PFB / DS in the same room as us, it's affecting the intimacy in our relationship.

honeysucklejasmine Mon 12-Jan-15 22:37:31

Have you told her this, or this a cry for her attention?

goldencrowns Mon 12-Jan-15 22:38:36

DP, is that you....? blush

GertrudeBell Mon 12-Jan-15 22:38:51

It is a bit addictive understatement of the century

dirtybadger Mon 12-Jan-15 22:39:13

Why don't you speak to Susan? I'm not sure posting here (where she has found a supportive community) is the way to solve this...

Have you spoken to her? If I were her (and you hadn't)...this might shit me off, if I'm brutally honest.

Rainicorn Mon 12-Jan-15 22:39:22

Dear Barry, is everything in Susan's life ok, is she perhaps using MN as an escape or somewhere to vent.

usualsuspect333 Mon 12-Jan-15 22:39:38

You know a lot of MN terminology ,do you spend a lot of time peering over her shoulder?

Pico2 Mon 12-Jan-15 22:40:14

Is "affecting the intimacy in our relationship" code for "I'm not getting enough sex"?

borisgudanov Mon 12-Jan-15 22:41:19

You'd better watch your giblets, Giblets :-)

weedinthepool Mon 12-Jan-15 22:42:06

Susan should only be spending at most 15 mins per day on MN, she should be doing the house work, child rearing & shagging you Barry. Off with her head!

Poor Susan sad

MushroomSoup Mon 12-Jan-15 22:42:26

Hello darling!

QueenMartha Mon 12-Jan-15 22:44:21

I would think this was my DH but he's snoring beside me.

weedinthepool Mon 12-Jan-15 22:44:36

Anyone else got Barry Mailows tune 'Oh Mandy' running through their head but with 'Oh Susan, I'm losing yooooouuuu, to Mumsnet'

Fuck it's annoying angry

thornrose Mon 12-Jan-15 22:45:00

Oh dear, she's choosing MN over you, that must sting a bit. sad

Dognado Mon 12-Jan-15 22:45:45

Somewhere somebody is saying 'My Name is not Susan'

ChippingInLatteLover Mon 12-Jan-15 22:45:53

Stop stalking your wife.

If she wanted to jump your bones she would. Clearly she doesn't.

Not sure if you're taking the piss or serious, if by some minute chance you are serious then talk to her.

However, before you do, have a think about how you treat her, what you do around the house, who is getting up with the baby night after night, who is doing all cooking and cleaning etc. and who is doing all the organising & thinking, now you have a child.

It's a massive turn off to find yourself living with an entitled git or a manchild.

AgentProvocateur Mon 12-Jan-15 22:46:00

If that's you, DH, can you bring me up a glass of water when you come to bed please? wink

dirtybadger Mon 12-Jan-15 22:46:02

For some reason the thread title lodged Making Plans for Nigel into my head.

Better than Oh Mandy though...

MrsWolowitz Mon 12-Jan-15 22:47:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WhirlyTwirlySnowflakes Mon 12-Jan-15 22:47:41

Out of interest what are you doing while she is on the iPad? Watching TV? reading? Also online?

weedinthepool Mon 12-Jan-15 22:48:50

Barry, you've earwormed Barry Manilow in my head.

Lovely Susan please exterminate Barry on behalf of MN.

Joysmum Mon 12-Jan-15 22:49:17

I'm on here now...obviously (if I wasn't if be studying), DH is looking up things to do this weekend.

We are also both watching 'Mock the Week'.

Even so, we are both looking at each other smiling when there's a funny but on the telly, and catching each other's eye generally so aren't vompletely absorbed in our phones. There would be a problem if we both had tunnel vision.

In short, it's not the amiunt of time spent, it's how focussed you are and what you do when you finish. DS should be asleep now. Night night wink

weedinthepool Mon 12-Jan-15 22:49:38

Whirly sorry to point out the obvious but I'd say Barry is online...

BIWI Mon 12-Jan-15 22:50:06

I'm usually on MN because DH is usually watching the sport.

WhirlyTwirlySnowflakes Mon 12-Jan-15 22:54:22

Weed well he might be building the Eiffel Tower out if spaghetti for all we know.

My point was rather that if he is engaged in another activity then why shouldn't his DW be MN-ing.

It's only a problem if she's ignoring him.

OP I MN regularly and my DH is generally fabulous.

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