Being ignored by boyfriend

[St29]

For the 2nd time in 6 weeks my boyfriend of 4 months is ignoring me. I've done nothing wrong. He's just stressed from work, from his ex playing games with contact with kids, and a bad cold. Why do men think this us acceptable ?

[St29]

First time it happened it lasted a week, no explanation other than what I'd said in paragraph. When he's not able to see kids he won't leave me alone.

[Joysmum]

If this us happening this early on in the relationship I think you need to consider your options. It's not acceptable.

When people get upset or stressed they should be getting through with their partner by their side to share to load.

[HermanSkank]

'Men' don't, on the whole. Your partner does, but that could be because he's a twat. Frankly, if you've had two episodes of 'ignoring' in the four months you've been together, you should probably just put this relationship out of its misery and end it now.

[St29]

Yea that's what I'm thinking. I think I deserve better. I forgave him last time, I don't think I can this time

[VanitasVanitatum]

Get out before you get in any deeper.. Really selfish to make you feel that way, he should be able to communicate even if only to say he needs to get his head together etc

[St29]

That's what I think. He can manage to go on Facebook etc
But can't speak to me

[Seriouslyffs]

It's not acceptable and you deserve better.

Dump him.

[LubbaWubbaDubDub]

My ex did this to me throughout our marriage. It's not nice and it's EA.

There may be good reasons why he's ignoring you if he has ASD - but he wouldn't be communicating with anyone at all in that situation. So based on what you have written I would assume he's being a twat.

[St29]

I think things get on top of him but if he actually did something about his ex game playing he'd not be stressed. But still he responds to her games.even texts her in front of me.

[Ladyfoxglove]

My ex was like this. Any minor blip related to work, his children, his ex-wife, he'd ignore me but he'd still go on Facebook, watch TV and go out with his mates and have a grand old time. When it ended and I asked him why he behaved that way, he said it was because he found it easier to put on a front with other people and Facebook / TV was an escape. He knew he was making excuses for poor behavior though.

[hellsbellsmelons]

4 months in should still be the honeymoon period.
If it's hard work and he's making you unhappy already, time to step away from this relationship.
Get out there and find yourself a nice fun man who won't stonewall you!

[St29]

I find it very hard, cos on tues he said he wanted to do everything with me, and now ignoring me. Supposed to be going to a wedding together sat. Last week he wouldn't leave me alone

[coalscuttle]

Not all men do it, only unpleasant men do. It's just an excuse to be unkind to you. If it wasn't his ex or work he would come up with another excuse, believe me.

[St29]

I can understand foxglove where your ex comes from. Mine won't let anyone know what's bothering him,

[Leviticus]

He thinks it's acceptable because you let him treat you this way.

Disrespectful idiot. Ignore him back forever.

[St29]

To be honest he is very selfish and stubborn, not the man I first met at all

[BitOutOfPractice]

Cut your losses op. Who needs this kind of shit so early on in a relationship? Or for that matter at any stage of a relationship! But being as its so early on you can move on and chalk it up to experience. There's loads of men out there who don't pull this kind of stunt. Find one of them

[Blowmeonelastkiss]

They don't change.

[talbotinthesky]

Maybe that's how he thinks you should treat people. I'd do the same back only not for a week, say permanently maybe ;)

[St29]

Well I've tried to contact today again but nothing, so gonna let him find me now

[BaffledSomeMore]

If you put up with it then you're saying it's acceptable. Simple as that.

[Charley50]

Get rid. I learnt the hard way. People like this don't change. It's rude abusive and disrespectful. A normal guy would just call or text and say look I'm not feeling great but see you soon etc. This is passive aggressive behavior from emotionally incapable man.

[LubbaWubbaDubDub]

I agree with BaffledSomeMore.

I put up with EA for a decade for what I thought would be the easy life. Mistake. I ended up becoming depressed, anxious and I lived in fear.

In my experience, nothing changes - even counselling didn't work. In the end I cut my losses and left.

[St29]

I feel depressed from it, and confused too. Like my friend said, when you part you wonder if today he will ignore you or speak to you

[nicenewdusters]

Agree with Lubba.

He should see you as his support, not as the person to take his frustrations out on.

Stressed because he's also got a cold ? FFS ! Man-child.

Count it as a blessing that he hasn't contacted you, and ignore, ignore, ignore.......