DP and I have been together for 8 years, two children one at primary school one pre-school age.
We are really fucking poor and I am sick of it. I want to have enough money to be able to relax, not worry about debt, for the kids to have football or piano lessons or whatever.
He is self-employed in a creative industry. There is one side of it in which you can earn ok money which he hates, one side which is really hard to make a living from but he loves.
So currently he is doing what he loves and I am working and basically funding him having an expensive hobby. There is always the promise of some money just around the corner and I somehow end up feeling like a bitch for trying to take something he loves away from him, "years of work" etc.
He doesn't really mind having no money, I think he'd be happier going back to his life pre-children and just doing what he loves and making no money.
But I don't want that. I want to buy a house and go on holiday and all that kind of thing.
I don't know how to resolve this without at least one of us being miserable.
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What do you do if you fundamentally want different things in life?
ghostvitruvius · 06/11/2014 15:53
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