I have loitered in the back ground since joining after my husband left for OW a few months ago. I have gained great strength from reading the posts and the fantastic advice form others.
I am on AD which are starting to work .My EH and I had a complex relationship with lots of ups and downs etc.
I was beyond shocked when he left and for the first time in our volatile history I do believe it is over. He has never as far as I know had an affair before.
However I have had a few counseling session and have decided despite what he?s done and the fact he is with OW I am going to quietly fight for my man
I?m sure most of you will think I am mad .But in my sessions we talked about what would I find easier to deal with
- him out of my life and no contact other than odd text about children , who are old enough to see their dad without intervention fom m
OR
-to maintain a relationship with him of some sorts, which may or may not over time lead to more
I decide being with him makes me happier even now than not being with him.We still laugh together, talk together, he says he loves me but can?t be with me
My therapist believes it is worth a try
We had not bees speaking for a couple of weeks after a series of awful arguments and I was trying to detach.
However when he arrived to pick upDS I went outside to speak to him. He said he hates us rowing, wants us to be friends, better for all of us especially DS
When he comes tonight to pick up DS , he has said he will fix a problem with computer. I feel with no pressure on him, no mentioning of OW who will be insane if she finds out we are reestablishing a relationship, we can bit by bit restore our friendship and see where that leads us.
I?m sure lots of people will think I?m mad but I?m really interested to know if anyone else absolutely though it was over, no going back and has been able to turn it around
And if any one has any GOOD advice
Thanks so much