We have a daughter in a private girls school, what if we have a boy next?

[mummyloveslucy]

Our daughter is in a realy lovely school for girls. She loves it there and is very happy. We are planning another baby but what if it's a boy?. He couldn't go to my daughters school and there is only one other private school around and we've heard that it is not that good. Do we put him in to a state primary which is probubly as good as this other private school or do we put him in the private one just so it's fair? We would be over the moon with a baby boy or girl, but I'd want our son to be just as happy as our daughter. Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
I'd be realy greatful for any advice.

[LIZS]

We chose a mixed school for that reason. You just have to make the best of the choices available.

[ScaryScienceT]

You really don't have to treat each of your children absolutely equally. They are individuals.

If you have a boy, then you have to decide whether the boys' school is better than the state school. Your daughter's school doesn't really come into the equation. If you decided to send your boy to the state school because it was better for him, this does not mean moving your daughter there too, if it's a step down from her school.

[Tinker]

So, put him (who does not yet exist) in a private school or put him in a state school which is as "good" as it? So, ££££ of no ££££. Um, where's the dilemma?

[HUNXXXX]

omg what IF????

what a terrible THOUGHT THIS IS????

[HUNXXXX]

if he goes to the state shcool he may CATCH somehitng

[ScaryScienceT]

yep, and if in Surrey, then headlice

[Lil]

'you've heard its not very good'!!!!

that's it..... you're stressing about a child that's not even born yet, that may not be a boy, that might have to go to a school you haven't even seen, because someone says its not very good???????

do you have too much time on your hands or not a lot to worry about. Maybe you could spend the time looking at the boy's school and finding out the truth.


I envy your care free existence!

[HUNXXXX]

ths is hilarious

i really am LOST for WORDS

[flowerybeanbag]

You want to put each child into the best school available for them.
You have decided that the private girls school is best for your daughter, fair enough. If the state school is the best one available for your son, no point putting him into the other one simply because it's private, that's daft. Kids that age aren't interested in whether their education is costing you money or not.

However what will you do later on - will they both be at the same school when they are older - is this just a primary school dilemma?

Because I can see possible issues if the difference continues until the end of their schooling. Resentment that you paid for DD's education not DS's, etc.

[boolepew]

You're not even pg, ffs. How do you manage to have so little in your life to worry about?

[motherinferior]

This is a joke, right?

[Wisteria]

Schools change you know and 4 years is a long time (presumably you are not going to send him aged 6months)! Plus the fact, you have only 'heard' it's not that good; personally I make my own decisions....

Stop worrying about the what ifs and just chill a bit!

[HUNXXXX]

i am lovign the frisson MI
are you?

you ARE arent you

[Wisteria]

just realised that you're not even pregnant yet!

PMSL

[HUNXXXX]

no and she may never be tbh

[pointydog]

start a campaign so that the girls' school lets in boys

[Lulumama]

you'll have to wait and see, you cannot really plan for these things, and your two children will be individuals and might well be different academically

if this is the most troubling thing you have to worry about, you are blessed

[pointydog]

claim it is your right

[HUNXXXX]

cross dress him

[TwigorTreat]

I am really personally extremely worried about whether if we decide to sell the house and move to a new area whether my next door neighbour will be nice and whether if they have children, our children will get on.

And what area should we move to?

[lemonaid]

You want him to be as happy as your daughter, so when the time comes pick a school that will suit him and his personality.

[RubyShivers]

it is a bit of an abstract situation right now
perhaps if and when you have a son, then you can check the school out and see for yourself if it is any good

[TheEvilDediderata]

Do you have two dd's, mummy? It's just that on all your recent threads, you've mentioned that your daughter is only 2.5.

I'm guessing the daughter you're discussing here is 10 or 11?

[LadyMuck]

Presumably some of the other parents at your dd's school have faced this dilemma - perhaps you can consider what they have done? Or possibly there is something in the water that produces large number of girl only families in your area, in which case you are probably safe (so long as you keep drinking the water).

[HUNXXXX]

NOTE THE OP HAS LEFT THE BUILDING*