To be secretly laughing

[BonsoirAnna]

at the fact that the DSSs' mother is begging telling them to go home to keep the new au pair company?

We did warn her that a 12 year old and a 14 year old didn't actually need an au pair...

[dingdong05]

ok, can't work it out... what's a DSSs' mother?

lol at them keeping the au pair company

[MissSunny]

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[BitOfFun]

YABU, and a bit smug. But it is odd that they are being asked to look after her rather than the other way round. I sort of agree that they don't need an au pair, but perhaps they need some adult supervision, and constructive things to keep them busy? MN has been full of tales these holidays about children fending for themselves who end up imposing on the kindness of neighbours and friends' parents, and making a thorough nuisance of themselves.

[PinkTulips]

dear step sons, her dp/dh's ex wife/partner

bless, the poor girl must be bored out of her mind with only two teenage boys to interact with all day

[MrsKarlKennedy]

I'm lost...someone help me

[MrsKarlKennedy]

Thanks Rubyrubyruby....but I meant what thread are you talking about - I think I missed it and want to be nosy and join in

[MrsKarlKennedy]

Or am I stupid? (Have a horrible sinking feeling I am

[MrsKarlKennedy]

Oh God I need some coffee or valium....As you were...I am an idiot

[MrsKarlKennedy]

I think I might have got away with it....If the damn kids didn't keep waking me up at the crack of dawn I'd be able to read properly.

[claw3]

Havent got a clue what you are talking about, so i will guess, definitely YABU maybe.

[talbot]

Well I have no idea about their arrangements but if I worked and lived in a city then I wouldn't want my 12 and 14 year olds always being left on their own after school and for the duration of the holidays. If I were a single mum I could probably do with a bit of help wth the cooking / housework etcalso so YABU.

[BonsoirAnna]

She has a daily cleaner already.

[loobylu3]

I don't really understand either! I am presuming that she works and wants someone responsible to keep an eye on the children after school, cook tea, help with their laundry.

[pleasechange]

a daily cleaner OMG - I would love one of those. That must cost a fortune

[VinegarTits]

Maybe the cleaner could keep the Au Pair company

[Tryharder]

If she's out of the house a lot I don't think it's unreasonable for her to have an aupair to make sure the boys are alright - not necessary "look after" but just make sure they aren't burning the house down, that they are eating properly that sort of thing. If she can afford it, why not?

Having worked as an aupair back in the day, I am sure that the au pair would be quite happy with her own company!

[BonsoirAnna]

Au pair is just babysitting - she has no cleaning/laundry duties and doesn't eat with the family.

[skihorse]

Tbh, you need to stop worrying about the au pair and start worrying about why you continuously feel the need to look down on your husband's ex-wife.

[BonsoirAnna]

I know - because she's a crap mother and we have to pick up all the pieces

[thedolly]

The fact that she got an au pair suggests she's trying - give her a break.

[fiver]

OF course she's a crap mother, she's your husband's ex. She's probably a lot of other things too.