a simple yes or no will suffice (!)

[pamelat]

DD 18 months.

I work 3 days, she goes to nursery.

I have 2 days with her, plus the weekend with DH around.

Am member of very nice and never used gym . Prior to going back to work used to do a friday morning class and put DD in creche.

I still want to do this but feel I should not?

She used to like it but now she is a bit clingier (been at nursery 6 months now) and seems to want "mummmeeeeeeeeeeeeee" a lot more.

So would I be unreasonable to put her in the creche (just for an hour) maybe once a fortnight? It feels wrong but I really want to do something and lose some weight.

Is it really selfish when I dont see her for 3 days (for more than about an hour or so)

[pamelat]

See I can do things in the evening instead but can not be bothered so should I just kick myself up the bum and leave thurs and friday as mummy and DD time?

[harleyd]

no, do it

[Thunderduck]

No it isn't selfish.Not at all.

[gonaenodaethat]

No

[ChasingSquirrels]

do it

[pamelat]

oh really, you think its ok? Its only an hour. Would love to get back in to it.

[stuffitlllama]

I don't think so. I don't think work is "you" time and this is "you" time, just an hour, once a fortnight.

But you are the best judge of whether it will really upset her a lot.

[Thunderduck]

There'd be nothing wrong with doing it weekly either.

[TheCrackFox]

Do it and go to the gum once a week not once a fortnight. It is only an hour.

[GetOrfMoiLand]

No, not at all selfish.

[pamelat]

I think she will be fine in the end but will be upset for the first few times. I just wouldnt want her to feel that I am always trying to "get rid of her".

She is very confident with other children etc.

[ChasingSquirrels]

it is not just "ok" it is positively a GOOD IDEA

[traceybath]

Do it weekly.

[Tidey]

I don't see anything wrong with that. Maybe if you were putting her in creche for the whole of the two days so you could spend the time shoe shopping and getting drunk, that might be unreasonable. But one hour a fortnight for the gym, I don't see how anyone could think that was worthy of a bad mummy award.

[Tidey]

Oops, sorry, you only wanted short answers.

Do it.

[pamelat]

I think it will feel better once she drops her nap too. She has 2 hours at lunch so even an hour in the morning and then home makes it seem like I will have hardly seen her .... until the afternoon I guesss.

DH says he thinks it fine too.

My mum says it is not and said "ahhhhh poor DD" which is why I am asking

[HeadFairy]

I think go, it is for your health after all... it's not like you're going for a facial once a week (hang on, now there's an idea )

[Thunderduck]

Ignore your mother.

[ChasingSquirrels]

ask your mum if she will come to your house and mind her while she has her nap, and go to the gym then.

Mums!

[pamelat]

Oh brilliant

I didn't mean that I only wanted short answers. Not sure what I meant. Just wanted telling I guess.

[HeadFairy]

Do you have to do the weekdays? Can you go on a saturday and leave her with dh for some quality daddy time?

[troutpout]

do it

[Thunderduck]

I can't understand why some people think that mothers should never do anything just for themselves.
Everyone need treats,you don't stop needing some me time because you're now a mother.

[pamelat]

Wish someone could come over in her nap time.

My mum works full time.

I tend to have a tidy up in her naps or come on here