My first ever AIBU, here goes...
Have been split from XH nearly 8 years and we are divorced. One DD aged 10 and we have a 50/50 shared care court order.
XH moved out into a friends spare room and left me to pay everything claiming he needed to be able to save a deposit so he could move into a rental. This left me paying for absolutely everything, mortgage, bills, nursery fees, shopping, petrol etc on just my salary.
I was the one who instigated the split as he was hell to live with for many many reasons. I think I felt so guilty that I just agreed to whatever he wanted just to get him out and away from me.
I ended up in loads of debt as for months and months he paid nothing, it absolutely decimated my credit score and I'm still not free of it.
I have been living in the equivalent of a 2 bed holiday chalet size property in the best area I can afford to be able to get DD into a great secondary school. It's a really expensive area, I'm always having to juggle which bills to pay and have very little disposable income.
He has lived in a one bed flat above a shop for the last 7 years and has just had an offer accepted on a 2 bed house, in an ok area. He came into a large sum of money when his mum died a couple of yrs ago so was able to put down a decent deposit.
I will never ever be able to buy somewhere.
And even though I know and fully appreciate that it's great for DD to have the security of him having his own home, I'm so resentful because he left me in so much debt and I will never have that same security.
So am I AIBU in my resentment?
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IndieTara · 23/10/2019 16:35
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