Neither DH nor I are working. I am on mat leave and he was made redundant and will be SAHD when I go back.
I have said to him recently that it feels like I do all the childcare for our 5 month old and we haven't mastered independent naps yet so I have to take him out in the pram. DH exercises 2 hours+ a day in our home gym, he can (and does) go out for a day occasionally to drink with friends or go to the football but I don't feel like I get any "me" time in return. Even just a long bath would be nice.
His first suggestion was that we should put the baby in a chair bouncer whilst he exercises each day. I don't want to do this as the baby needs a lot of interaction and isn't really happy being in the bouncer for more than about 10 minutes. I am pissed off that his first suggestion was basically to neglect our child rather than either looking at all the hours he is not exercising or maybe exercising less. I was raised by a neglectful SAHD who spent most of the day on his hobby so this is a sore spot for me and he knows it. He doesn't understand why I am still upset though because he says not going to do it.
He doesn't think it would be neglectful anyway. This is making me worried about his judgement and leaving him as SAHD.
I feel like my marriage is dying. Help! Should we get counselling?
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This is bad parenting, right?
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DontKnowWhatToDo12 · 06/03/2019 16:11
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