Hi all
I'm sure I ABU and please no one take this as a bashing against FT working/ PT working/SAHM because I honestly don't mean to start a debate! Anyway I am the only person I know IRL with this problem and it's really upsetting me. I am 6 m pregnant and will have to go back to work FT because I can't afford to go PT or otherwise. Say I earn 2000 pm after tax full time, I would lose 400 pm on a 4 day week. But childcare is 60 per day therefore 1200 pm for 5dpw or 960pm for 4dpw. So if I worked 5dpw after CC I would have 800 left over but on 4dpw I would only have 640 left over. With 3dpw I lose even more money.
DP earns roughly the same as me and all bills come from his wages (high rent where we are) so my wages are needed for food, petrol etc as well as CC. I know I sound like I feel sorry for myself, but everyone that I speak to always says along the lines off 'its not worth going back to work once you've paid for CC, it would take all my wages'. And I get that for lots of ppl this is true, I really do but for me it's not the case.i have to work to buy food! I told someone the other day that I have to go back FT because my wages are higher than CC and they didn't know what to say and were a bit
All my colleagues (who are lovely) are shocked that I am coming back FT and cannot comprehend it. It's so embarrassing and i feel like a freak! It feels like it's ok to moan about the cost of CC but no one I know truly has to work FT because of this problem. DP feels sad that he doesn't earn enough to keep us on one wage and I feel like shit that I have to go back FT with everyone questioning it and being shocked.
AIBU to feel like the only person I know in this position ?? Thanks for reading
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Gingerale12 · 20/02/2019 09:44
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