Name changed for this.
I am a new mum and live in a block of flats in a city. I have struggled to meet other mums but by chance bumped into another mum in the lifts one day. We got talking and she invited me to meet other local mums and attend a few baby groups.This was wonderful and provided some good activities for me and 5 month old bubba.
But last month she got really cold towards me. Stopped inviting me to groups/get togethers, said she was too busy for a meet up and even blanked me once in our buildings reception. I was perplexed because we had had no argument.
Well I asked what I had done to a new mum (who has become a mutual friend) and she revealed that this friend was upset due to an incident that had occurred at our last mums get together. A buffet was laid out, we had all bought some food, and she had made some home made mini ginger cheesecakes in little ramekins. All the other mums were raving about these cheesecakes and she invited me to have one. I took one bite and it was horrible. I forced myself to take another bite but really could not stomach any more. All the other mums had gobbled theirs up, so I thought I could not leave mine uneaten. So I discreetly scooped it up in a napkin and put it in my pocket. Turned out the mum had seen me do this!
She told our mutual friend she had never been so offended and that I was very rude. Our mutual friend suggested I text an apology and give her a sorry gift as she was really upset. She apparently said she wanted a "big gesture" if she was ever going to be my friend again. She was also upset that she had introduced me to her friendship group yet I had been so snobby to refuse to eat her cheesecake.
I am very embarrassed that she saw me get rid of her cheesecake. But I could not eat it and did not mean to offend.
And part of me thinks she should just accept she makes mushy cheesecake and laugh it off. This is surely not worth ending a friendship over.
Is cheesecake such a big deal? AIBU?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
War caused by cheesecake
96 replies
NoelEdmondsbeard · 19/08/2018 13:05
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.