So let me start, the house we're renting is my childhood home. My mom mainly poured all the money into it for me and my brother. My brother died a few years ago so the house is still legally my dad's but always still 'my home'. I've made it into that. I really struggle and I don't have a lot of money and my dad and his girlfriend ran it down to a filthy mess. I've given it love and paint and it's lovely now and I'm paying his mortgage, water everything. But it's not in my name or even that I'm renting.
So the main thing in this was a home for my family (dad has moved out as he's in so much debt for his ex and can't afford to live without my money) and my mom and stepddad decided to help us out (thank gosh) and put a percentage towards buying this house and we put the rest. The idea is in future we all move to the seaside. Me, My two children, my mom, dp and stepddad.
So my dad hasn't been a dad. He let his ex abuse us, wouldn't give my mom money for us and she really struggled with two kids, told me I'd only ever amount to be selling the big issue, you get the idea. A complete asshole. I have panic attacks every time I see him now after announcing my pregnancy with ds. He's a asshole to me over it. But pleased for his ex's 16 year old daughter who's gotten knocked up.
So yesterday I'd had enough. I've been asking him for months to collect the rest of his things. So I can sort the spare bedroom out for ds and put heating upstairs. He refuses to take it.
He then has his post delivered here still and blames me for loosing important letters (which I always put in the hallway to keep them all together.) when what he does is open them and leave them. It's driving me insane. I've put 3 grand into this home, new kitchen, bathroom etc and he wants all the money from it now as he can't stop going to gigs etc on his credit card. I want the only contact to be for the money now and that's it.
Am I in my rights to throw his things out now? It's been well over a year.
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Gigimoll · 18/02/2018 09:56
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