I've finally reached the point of no contact with my family but I've been told that my childhood was not neglectful or abusive as things were just different back then. But I don't hear of any of my peers having the same type of upbringing.
Some examples:
- rarely had clean underwear
- never had sanpro until I started a part time job at 16
- didn't have my own toothbrush
- dad used his belt on us when he was angry
- dad kicked down the bathroom door when sister tried to run away from getting the belt
- I broke my coccyx while skating and was denied access to doctor and pain relief.
- also denied access to doctor over a terrible verruca problem until a teacher noticed it at swimming and insisted I be taken. The whole of the sole of my foot was completely covered and I'd been in agony for months.
- often left with evil psychopath older brother who was never punished for his cruelty.
There's loads more, 30 years worth. But you get the gist of it.
So is this just how it was then and AIBU?