I’m a frequent mumsnetter but I have NC for this so I don’t put myself.
We live in the South of England and have the inlaws visiting this weekend. I’ve had a multitude of issues with our inlaws, very much justifiably and you lot have been a great help on numerous occasions.
Basically DH has vowed to be less of a pushover with them and pull them up for the things they do that aren’t okay.
So PIL’s are staying at a hotel and we popped round for a while this afternoon. We went up for a look in their room and our DDS (4 & 1) we’re getting a little bored. DH and I started having a little rough & tumble with them on the bed as DD2 especially loves this. MIL started to get involved and let’s just say my heart was in my mouth, she picked up DD2 and was throwing her around like a rag doll, literally I saw her little head flopping around in the air and I felt sick. She was throwing her down onto the bed with far too much force and her little head was just flying around 😱😰 before i’d managed to intervene, DH said, “Mum could you stop that please, she’s only 1”. MIL replied “she’s absolutely fine, it’s not like I’m beating her up”. Typical answer from MIL. Never just “okay, no problem” she always defends herself and leaves me with no confidence that she won’t do it again. In fact I’m pretty confident she will do it again.
When we left the hotel, I explained to my jisbahd that I’m not happy and that I wish he’d said something like “I’m the parent and I don’t feel comfortable with you doing that to her”. He basically said he doesn’t want to talk about it until the kids are in bed but literally my blood was boiling and my kids safety is my priority and he needs to handle these situations better. DD1 was in the car but I was making sure to talk in such a way that she wouldn’t understand. (Also she was busy playing with her new paw patrol toy so was very much zoned out). Anyway, DH is now very upset with me and says now is not the time to discuss this or to discuss this further with his parents. I just feel at a loss. He promised me things would get better with his parents but now he’s starting to blame me, saying I’m making things worse. All I’m doing is trying to take proper care of my children and put their interests first. So is DH right on this, should I just put up & shut up? I just feel so lost with all of this. He’s through in our living room now with his parents and the kids all happy as Larry, while I’m sat in the kitchen feeling rubbish.
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To be furious over MIL throwing our 1 year old around!
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HappinessAlwaysAhead · 22/10/2017 17:14
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