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to think this about UK punting

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equitation · 21/08/2017 15:41

All middle aged balding men trying to have sex with 18 year olds? I have an 18 year old DD and I find it gross. How can this be allowed to go on?

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DixieFlatline · 21/08/2017 15:46

Have we not had enough threads about that website this year? Many of them started by attention-seeking, sad individuals from said website?

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Neutrogena · 21/08/2017 15:48

It will also be older men, younger men, and hirsute men.
Dont logon to it if it offends you.

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user1471517900 · 21/08/2017 15:49

As soon as she hits 19 it will presumably stop then.

I've literally only ever heard this website on here. Stop promoting it.

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CaoNiMartacus · 21/08/2017 16:15

"How can this be allowed to go on?"

Because of the patriarchy, basically.

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WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 21/08/2017 19:14

It's full of jaded, intolerant, cynical men who seem to hate paying for sex yet still do it. They loathe the fact that the women, especially the ones who are over about 25 and who don't have model looks, earn more per hour than they do. They are some of the worst punters out there and consider lovely punters (who prefer to treat the ladies with far more respect) as pathetic "fluffies". Charming bunch. Not surprised they have to pay women to fuck them.

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blueandsad · 22/12/2017 21:42

yes they are . Misogynistic and geekish . I am not sure how to infiltrate an on-line community , but I would do it.

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Indigo911 · 22/12/2017 21:46

They are a bunch of pathetic creeps. All totally deluded when they write their reviews and make out the escorts have loads of orgasms with them. Do they not realise that the escorts are good actresses who want repeat business?! It’s no wonder their wives don’t want sex with them. How embarrassing having to fork out thousands a year for women to pretend to enjoy sex with you

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Ethylred · 22/12/2017 22:02

"How can this be allowed to go on?"
Er, because it's legal? In the UK outside NI anyway.

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Cantuccit · 22/12/2017 22:15

Well what are are you going to do about it, OP?

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papayasareyum · 22/12/2017 22:17

and they think the women enjoy themselves. They “can tell” Hmm

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LastGirlOnTheLeft · 22/12/2017 22:20

The men on that site have dark hearts and dark souls. Pity them and despise them and realise they are worthless compared to any woman. Any woman like you.

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Ethylred · 22/12/2017 22:26

Dark hearts and dark souls? Is this Lord of the Rings?

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Whisky6 · 26/12/2017 20:22

@equitation I'm a bald middle 50 year old man, and I used to punt, and I used to post on UK Punting as well. I understand that you might consider me a vile human being, but I would like to add my £0.02 worth to the discussion.
It can be allowed to go on because "grossness" at work isn't subject to criminal sanction, in itself. Various trades might be considered gross.Risking getting killing or mutilated in warfare might be. Nursing the sick and dealing with disease and bodily fluids all day might be. Or, having sex with old men when you're a young woman might be as well. All might be considered gross in their way. But that's why these jobs pay well (or prostitution does anyway.) And there's always an alternative, even that alternative is a minimum wage job. I know someone's going to be saying "capitalist patriarchy" at this point, but punters didn't invent capitalism. I got the impression that most UKPunting members are either burning though pension money, accumulated during a lifetime spent in the rat race, or burning through money they should be paying into a pension. @WhatALoadOfOldBollocks makes this point by accident- most punters earn a fraction of prostitutes' hourly rates. As someone posted on UKP once, buying a newspaper in the morning doesn't make you Rupert Murdoch.
There are the main reasons why I punted:

  1. The physical attractiveness of particular women. The reminded me of girls I fell in love with when I was young in a heightened state of hormone delirium but never dated.
  2. It seemed to short circuit the whole dating game.
  3. Wanting to put two fingers up to the marriage -mortgage- human progeny trap.
    @papayasareyum it does happen. Sometimes a women's nipples went erect during a meeting. Once (only once) a woman blushed red across her chest, which I believe is a sign of orgasm. It might not have been personal (due to me). She might have been thinking about Jason Statham during sex- if so, great. Whatever works, works.
    @BlueAndSad "Misogynistic and geekish"
    @Indigo911 "pathetic creeps"
    @LastGirlOnTheLeft "worthless"
    With all due respect, you all seem to be pushing a "pathetic loser "narrative. If punters in general, and the sub species of UK Punting members in particular, really are pathetic losers , what is the consequence of this? The consequence is they can't really be criticised for seeing prostitutes, because they don't have any alternative. If they're such losers they're inevitably going to fail at relationships, why would they (we) bother trying?
    Surely a better argument would be even if you can't get laid, sex and sexual relationships aren't the only things in life, you can go your own (geekish) way and still have a fulfilled life.
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Indigo911 · 26/12/2017 20:31

My nipples get erect all the time and it’s not a sign that I’m turned on. It’s a myth that women’s nipples only do this when aroused btw

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streetlife70s · 27/12/2017 02:45

Grin at anyone thinking nipple erection is a sign of arousal.

Mate, that happens in cold weather, when taking off an item of clothing, brushing them slightly or for literally no reason. That’s what they do. Because they are there to feed infants not show sad little men female arousal.

I make you right though, if you are so clueless about women you probably are better off paying for it.

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 27/12/2017 02:47

It goes on because it's gone on from the dawn of time.
The best we can do is teach our daughters and sons how to respect each other.
Other than that, it's nothing new.

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 27/12/2017 02:49

Oh and yes it's no surprise men with those types of views pay for sex.

I'm glad too because they deserve to feel shafted, because their assholes.

But there's always been those too.

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NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 27/12/2017 02:56

.WhiskyG nipples get erect for many reasons - very unfortunate.

But yes I don't think you can say every man who has ever punted at all is X. Because life isn't like that.

You can't compare Barry whobis lonely but very kind to an escort and Liam who calls them names and is over demanding.

I think you have to be careful with feminism. You're either a feminist and believe a woman should make her own choice even if ill advised, or you are not on which is fine.

We can all take a moral stance from our own comfy beds. I used to be a wide eyed idealist and I'm happier not being.

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raisinsarenottheonlyfruit · 27/12/2017 03:03

I think you have to be careful with feminism. You're either a feminist and believe a woman should make her own choice even if ill advised, or you are not

Bollocks. Of course it's possible to be a feminist and anti prostitution.

To only look at it from the point of view of individuals misses the bigger picture entirely. We do not make choices in a vacuum.

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Hidingtonothing · 27/12/2017 03:12

How embarrassing having to fork out thousands a year for women to pretend to enjoy sex with you

This. I don't understand how the 'thrill' can possibly outweigh the humiliation of having to pay for it. I think punting sites are a way for them to convince themselves that having to pay doesn't make them completely pitiful specimens although the reactions of the majority of women really ought to tell them otherwise Smile

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BattleCunt · 27/12/2017 03:25

Threads like this always serve to out supposed feminists who are anti sexwork. Rather than speaking up in support, they treat sexworkers with the same derision as the men who frequent them. It's revolting.

Sexwork is a valid line of work for those who choose to do it. Anyone talking or implying things like gender betrayal need to shut the entire fuck up.

Also @Whisky6 - yes some escorts make good money. Some make fantastic money, but the truth is that around ninety per cent of punters are time wasters, so unless a full service sex worker satisfies a niche that is in constant demand, it is not as lucrative as you might imagine.

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BattleCunt · 27/12/2017 03:36

Also - men visit sexworkers for a variety of reasons. Many of you might laugh and say it's embarrassing and/or humiliating, but frankly, it's nobody else's business.

People are allowed to have a sex life, and if they find that by hiring a sexworker, then so be it. Would you mock and deride a disabled punter for paying a sexworker to access the sex life they want? I certainly hope not. It's not disgusting, it's not abhorrent; sex is a basic human need for many. Sure, some folks are asexual, and some folks lose interest in sex over time for a variety of reasons, but sex is a human need.

Sure, when people hire sexworkers whilst they're married or partnered, there's the dilemma of infidelity which is between the punter and whomever they've cheated on, and as a result sexworkers are blamed for homewrecking etc and deemed filthy. But the truth is, sexworkers provide a much needed service to many, whether feminism likes it, or not.

I find many aspects of punting offputting, but because it's been consenting adults, that's none of my business.

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juliesaway · 27/12/2017 03:44

What’s up punting? A prostitute review website? Sounds like it’s for a bunch of sad inadequates.

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juliesaway · 27/12/2017 03:44

Uk punting

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