wedding etiquette

[Sunshinegirls]

I am going to a wedding in a few weeks and have bought a black dress, my mother is horrified and has informed me that you shouldn't wear black to a wedding as much as you shouldn't wear white. I've never heard of this. Is it a thing?

[Iwasjustabouttosaythat]

It's very much a thing. Black is for funerals. Wearing black to a wedding is like saying you're unhappy about the marriage.

[puddingpen]

Yeah, you're not supposed to wear black. Sorry.

[Shoxfordian]

I think you can wear black if you accessorize with some colours and wear a colourful hat

[HeyCat]

It's a very well known tradition, but not everybody cares about it.

Personally I doubt I'd have noticed or cared if any of the guests were in black, but I know a friend of mine was very offended by a guest wearing a black dress with pink flowers on.

[troodiedoo]

It is a thing but not as much as the not wearing white thing. If it's a fancy style and you accessorise with a bit of colour it'll be fine :)

[Run4Fun]

No White/Cream/Black for weddings
Agree black is for funeral

[Pinkheart5919]

I think you can do black BUT it depends on the dress? And what accessories? ( you need bright shoes/bag etc)

I wouldn't wear black myself to a wedding as it does scream funeral, black just isn't a happy colour and a wedding should be a happy day

[HeyCat]

So unless you know the bride very very well and are sure they'll be ok with it, you shouldn't wear black.

[Tootootootoo]

Entirely black? I didn't think it was a 'thing' any more, but easy to dress up with coloured accessories.

[Bosabosa]

Lots of colourful accessories and you'll be fine x

[HardplaceandRock]

My mother in law wore entirely black to my wedding........am sure she did it as a statement of her unhappiness about the marriage (me taking her little boy away from her ) didn't bother me then and 20 years on it still doesn't

[DrSpin]

No don't wear black! Unless you are horrifically sad about the wedding that is?

[fuckwitery]

It's very much a thing, traditionally. Some brides would very upset. But some. It so fussed these days. If you know her well just ask.

[HundredMilesAnHour]

Your DM is correct. No black, no white, no cream and no green (supposed to be unlucky!)

[29Palms]

IMO there's a big difference between wearing unrelieved black, and wearing a black dress with brightly coloured accessories.

Dress it up with hat, shawl/stole/scarf, shoes, bag, maybe some bold jewellery, all in a vibrant colour like bright pink, yellow or red, and it won't look in the least funereal.

[Sunshinegirls]

Hmmmm shit! I still have time to buy another, it is completely black so I suppose might raise an eyebrow or two. Bit gutted as it took me ages to find a dress that didn't make me look like a overstuffed cushion.

[Mamabear14]

My mum is buying a black dress for my wedding. I helped her pick it. She likes my DP fine, it's just that she literally never wears any other colour. It doesn't bother me at all.

[Mrsglitterfairy]

I also agree, you shouldn't wear fully black to a wedding. Maybe the black dress with some bright heels, shrug, fascinator and jewellery at a push if you can't sort another dress

[thecolonelbumminganugget]

Picture of dress please


(For no other reason than I'm nosey )

[Mamabear14]

This is what she's going to wear.

[Run4Fun]

I have never heard about green at weddings. Just don't dress like a bridesmaid or a bride or someone in mourning

[thecolonelbumminganugget]

Nice dress! I'm getting married in a few weeks and my mum is wearing a cream and black dress, her outfit is lovely, I helped her pick it. I think it depends how well you know the couple. If you know they are not going to give a monkey's then go for it, if you don't know them well enough to call it then I'd steer clear.

[sweetbitter]

The issue of wearing a black dress to a wedding was extensively debated on this thread a few weeks back, you might want to read for opinions:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2934141-that-you-don-t-ask-guests-to-change-their-wedding-outfit?

Personally I think anyone would be mad to care about you wearing black unless there was some reason to think you were deliberately doing it as a statement of disapproval (which again I would never have thought possible until I read on aforementioned thread that some people would take it that way)

[Funnyface1]

Were you going to put any other colours to it? A jacket or a pashmina might change it.

[sweetbitter]

no green (supposed to be unlucky!)

This is getting ridiculous. I have worn green to the majority to weddings I've been to as it's a good colour for me, and have never once heard that it was supposed to be unlucky!