DP has a decent career and is clearly not thick. Yet I have to explain everything to him always. From minor things like not chucking his red pants in with the white wash, to major things like I can't respect him when the DC don't. His DD aged 10 lives with us and we have a two and three year old together. He has no authority over DSD at all and argues with her a lot. She continues doing as she likes and he does nothing about it. Yesterday he asked her to bring her cup in from the garden, she said jokingly no you can get it. He started arguing saying if you don't listen I'll remove privileges/pocket money/cancel x,y,z and she smiled and said fine. He eventually huffed off and got the cup himself. There will be no consequence for DSD.
We got a rescue staffy just after Christmas and she's gorgeous. Our two year old is very boisterous so I've had to explain to DP to never leave them alone under any circumstances repeatedly, yet he still does. I've had to spell it out that DS will get bitten but he just seems to not listen until something goes wrong.
I'm a SAHM and a carer for our three year old who is disabled. I had to pay for our new dogs immunisations out of my carers allowance/DS' DLA and she also needs to be neutered but I just can't afford it. We have new carpets all downstairs so her coming into season is likely to ruin them but DP will complain when this happens yet won't prevent it by paying for the operation himself.
He's had a porn addiction in the past which I suspect has just gone undercover because his phone is completely locked down and secret. When we have sex he's immediately telling me to slow down or trying to withdraw and often over for him in less than a minute. I explained before that his porn addiction was affecting our sex life and therefore our relationship but he just doesn't see it and I doubt he'd do anything about it unless I tell him I'll leave him over it.
He'll let the DC walk around with pens/scissors/glue and I have to explain why not to do so. I have no access to his money and my only pair of shoes are soaked from the rain which he knows, yet he will not give me any money for new ones unless u specifically explain and ask. It's been raining here all week and we're running out of clothes. I asked DP to hang the clean wet clothes on the radiators while I was cooking dinner. I then had to explain that he would also need to put the heating on so they'd dry 
AIBU to not want to have to state the obvious for the rest of my life?
AIBU?
to be fed up of explaining everything to DP?
kylalellogram · 19/05/2017 14:36
I didn't know he'd be a twat about the dig until we got her!
But you knew he was a twat about the children did you think a dog would be somehow different?
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Where did you get a rescue dog from that wasn't already neutered/spayed & immunised? 
. I thought the charities generally did that before rehoming the dogs? Obviously not.
His phone being on lockdown would be a huge issue for me. If his response to you saying porn was a no-no in your relationship was to just carry on but hide it from you then I would be asking him to leave on that issue alone TBH.
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