Is my mum unreasonable?

[user1492374848]

I live at home with my mum, dad and siblings. I'm 24 years old and have recently started dating a guy. I'm going to spend the night with him next week and I told my parents tonight - they have freaked out completely. am I being unreasonable in thinking that it's ok for me to do this??

[sunshinesupermum]

You are not being unreasonable at all. Why are they freaking out? You're 24!

[TimeforANewTwatName]

Urrhh that's weird. Telling your parents about your sex life.

[Wolfiefan]

You're 24. So an adult. You can have sex. But how recently is recently?

[ChasedByBees]

Yes but your parents probably don't want to hear the details.

[user1492374848]

They're not happy because they've not met him :(

[PurpleDaisies]

Why did you tell them?

[PortiaCastis]

Why tell your Mum you're going to have a shag ?

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

Depends if you meant in their home. .
Some parents are about that sort of thing happening under their roof!!
Especially if you have younger siblings!!
If you mean at his house then tell them to chill!!

[user1492374848]

I've not told them about my sex life - I've told them I'm going to be away so not to worry about me, i very rarely spend the night away from home so I've told them I'm going to be away. I've been seeing him for 3 weeks. He lives an hour away and works long hours so rarely can see him, making most of 2 days off

[AnnieAnoniMouse]

Twenty fucking four. FGS. They don't need to meet him.

Why, oh why, did you tell them so far in advance?

Leave home. Get your independence!

[sailorcherries]

You are 24. You don't need their permission to sleep over with someone, but you do need to double check with them before bringing anyone in to their home and respect their boundaries.

[gamerchick]

Why tell them, it's weird! you don't have a curfew or anything do you?

[Out2pasture]

are there issues with your competency?
it might be nice for your parents to meet the young man, have him over for dinner and know where he lives.
should you not return they would look foolish telling the police that they have no clue.

[user1492374848]

To top it off - I'm not even going to be having sex with him!! I've told him we're taking it slow and he's ok with that

[Wolfiefan]

Are they worried as you have only known him a very short time and they are worried for your safety? When I met DH I remember my mum asking if I would meet him at the place we had our first date and not go in his car. Just in case!
24. Live at home. Rarely spend the night away. Time to cut the apron strings?

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

I had 4 dc at 24!!

[user1492374848]

I absolutely agree I need to leave home but it's very hard when you've not got a lot of money!!

[harderandharder2breathe]

They're probably assuming you will be having sex.

The way to get your independence is to leave home.

[Nanny0gg]

It is only courtesy for the OP to warn her parents that she won't be home.

However, that should be the end of it.

[Instasista]

What do you mean by freaking out? Shouting at you? Banning you from going?

[lazyarse123]

Tell them you are an adult and you are just letting them know your plans so they won't worry (not that you need to do this). My 27 yr old daughter came back home after splitting with her long term boyfriend, she got another one after about 4months and he has slept here with her. It is a very uncomfortable and odd feeling but she is an adult and she does not flaunt it so we live with it. She would move out if she could afford it.

[TimeforANewTwatName]

It is only courtesy for the OP to warn her parents that she won't be home

Three weeks in advance?

[user1492374848]

It's only one week in advance - not even that, it's Wednesday evening in staying over :)

[PurpleDaisies]

I think you need to talk to your parents about house rules and boundaries while you're living there.

Are you paying rent?

[Moussemoose]

You need to get on the Victorian mumset thread. Verily.