DS just turned 1, and DH has been mardy for a few weeks, but had put it down to work stress. I finally managed to get a moment with him to ask him what was going on and after a lot of cryptic answers, he finally said that he was pissed off that I hadn't lost my baby weight yet, and that my 'lack of effort' had made him lose interest in our relationship.
During pregnancy I put on around 3 stone, which is a lot, but due to an emergency C section and PND I couldn't motivate myself to exercise other than walking (which I do a fair amount of). I've not put on any more weight, but I haven't lost any either and my lack of confidence in my appearance has made me put off exercise even more.
I get that it's hard for some new dads to adjust to the role, and he does work full time, but I literally do everything for my DS, and when I say everything it's no exaggeration. He's never even given DS a bath and that's not from my lack of encouragement, I'd be more than happy if he did! By he end of a day the last thing I want to do is go to the gym or do a fitness class. When I say this to him he takes it as an attack and we fall out more. I just can't win.
So my question is, AIBU to feel hurt that he wants to criticise me and my lack of motivation to lose weight, when he isn't prepared to lift a finger to enable me to do so?
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thatmakesmehappy · 13/04/2017 00:10
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