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feduptiredcommuter Thu 12-Jan-17 16:22:06

Have done a 7 hour round trip journey today. Wanted a lift from station as it's pissing it down, I'm tired and aching.

Phoned my DC, who is dropping a mate home so can't come and get me. Even though it's my bloody car!

It's only a 10 min walk but AIBU?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Thu 12-Jan-17 16:37:43

get a taxi, if he can't then he can't I expect he would if he wasn't out elsewhere, don't see the issue tbh

Ragwort Thu 12-Jan-17 16:39:43

YANBU - surely he can drop the mate home after he picks you up - unless there is a very specific reason why not? I would not be amused if it was my car and also it is a kind gesture to pick up a family member, particularly in this horrible weather.

feduptiredcommuter Thu 12-Jan-17 16:43:44

There's no taxi rank at station so I'd have to phone one which can be hit and miss and by time I've waited around in the rain I may as well have walked home.

I guess my issue is it's my car but I'm not benefitting from it. I didn't drive to the station on my outward journey as DC needed the car this morning.

Hellmouth Thu 12-Jan-17 16:47:54

Tell him to get his own car? hehe

Crispbutty Thu 12-Jan-17 16:50:19

Did he know what time you were coming back or did you just ring as you arrived? If he knew in advance maybe he could have arranged his trips so he could pick you up.

feduptiredcommuter Thu 12-Jan-17 16:50:27

There's no chance of him being able to afford his own car as he's not working at the moment.

dowhatnow Thu 12-Jan-17 16:52:10

I'd be annoyed too. Sit him down later and explain about priorities and not biting the hand that feeds you.

MsJamieFraser Thu 12-Jan-17 16:54:08

Did you ask him to pick you up before you left this morning?

witsender Thu 12-Jan-17 16:54:24

What's their excuse?

averythinline Thu 12-Jan-17 16:56:09

Well make sure thats the last time you lend him your car then......take him off the insurance when you get back ....

Reality16 Thu 12-Jan-17 16:56:47

YANBU if you gave him the car for the day on the provision that he collected you from the station

YABU if you asked later in the day when he had made plans already

Flowersonthewall Thu 12-Jan-17 16:57:31

If hes not working who has paid for the pwtrol and his insurance then? Yanbu

TheMysteriousJackelope Thu 12-Jan-17 17:00:39

If he is already miles away anddidn't know you would need to be picked up at this time YABU.

If he is close by and just can't be bothered to come and get you YANBU.

Doilooklikeatourist Thu 12-Jan-17 17:01:19

That's the last time he has use of the car then 😀

WhereYouLeftIt Thu 12-Jan-17 17:01:23

"Phoned my DC, who is dropping a mate home so can't come and get me. Even though it's my bloody car!"
Unless he's over an hour away, of course he can come and get you! Mate has to ride along while you are taken home, or he can walk/taxi/ whatever. Why are you deferring to your son's friend?

ArcheryAnnie Thu 12-Jan-17 17:02:44

Oh, this one is easy - walk home, don't be in the least mad at DC, but say no whenever he asks to borrow the car again.

Keep saying no. It's your car.

ArcheryAnnie Thu 12-Jan-17 17:05:48

Oh, and get the keys back and do tell him he's off the insurance now.

I'm being completely serious, btw. You are doing him no favours at all by allowing him to think this is a reasonable way to behave.

paxillin Thu 12-Jan-17 17:05:52

Maybe he won't have use of a car any longer until he can afford one. Unless of course he is currently 200 miles away. Otherwise the friend should have come for the ride.

feduptiredcommuter Thu 12-Jan-17 17:08:54

I rang just before final leg of journey, so about 25 mins before I'd arrive at station, he was just on his way to drop off mates (there were 3 in total, about a 40 min round trip to drop them all off). So I walked home - and got drenched in the process. He couldn't come get me on the way as there was no room in the car.

I couldn't have phoned much earlier as I wasn't sure of train times (long journey, various changes).

2rebecca Thu 12-Jan-17 17:09:09

If he's half an hour away dropping his friend off then I can understand why he can't magic himself there but otherwise you should take priority over his friend and I wouldn't lend him the car again. It's your fuel he's using ferrying mates around.

ImperialBlether Thu 12-Jan-17 17:09:46

Is it your son who's got the car or your partner?

feduptiredcommuter Thu 12-Jan-17 17:10:27

I am reviewing his usage of the car which may now become very limited smile

TheNaze73 Thu 12-Jan-17 17:10:51


2rebecca Thu 12-Jan-17 17:11:57

Sounds like he's taking the piss using your money and car to act as a taxi to 3 friends.
He's shot himself in the foot by not prioritising you there and telling mates to make their own way home. They'd have had to sort themselves out if you'd left the car at the station.

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