Can I Just Fucking Vent

[EtTuTuttiFrutti]

i've got cancer.
Breast Cancer.

It's shit.

But can I just fucking vent... about the people that regale me about ...

Their relatives that died ... and the absolute agony that they went through getting to their death

The people that have survived and how fucking Brilliant they were.


The fucking people that hug me and don't respect my space... just because I've got cancer. Fuck off .

[Smoothyloopy]

[Caboodle]

Vent away.

[FeralBeryl]

Yes, yes of course you can
You deal with this news exactly how you need to. Just know we're here with ears and hand holding if you need it.

[BastardGoDarkly]

Vent away Etu its fucking shit love

[GodSaveFuManchu]

Sorry to hear that. That really is shit.

[justdontevenfuckingstart]

That's totally shit Et my colleague always trots out 'well if you haven't got your health you haven't got anything' I want to smack him every time because yeah I am sure people know this.

Hope you're ok and you can tell me to fuck off too if you want.

[MollyHuaCha]

It's pants. So sorry to hear your situation. 🌷🌷🌷
I'm one of the people you mention by the way. Please may I ask a favour? This is a genuine request: please tell me some ideas for responses that would not add to your misery

[ChanandlerBongsNeighbour]

Vent away.

[harderandharder2breathe]

vent away

[Bitofacow]

Do you want a hug?

[AmeliaJack]

You are right. It's shit.

[ThinkPinkStink]

Vent to your heart's content!

I have no idea why people are such dicks (it's like those asshats who tell a newly pregnant person their near-death birth story or about babies lost but x1000).

Cancer is a fucker.

I hope it doesn't feel like I'm trivialising, but there has never been a better time to be sick - the medical profession is near-miraculous.

Have these

[beanfilledfish]

my mum had breast cancer when I was about 10 and I found it fascinating to play with the insert she put in her bra

[Bluesrunthegame]

Vent away. Here are some flowers:

[Butteredpars1ps]

Yes. Vent away. that's shit. I'm sorry, it's strange that some people believe that their Aunt Ethel's next door neighbour's hairdresser's Best friends Mother is relevant to you.

What do you want to say?

[Ginkypig]

Vent all you need!

For what it's worth you are still you the cancer isn't you its a shitty disease! People can acknowledge that without it being the only thing they see (while not seeing you)

I don't understand why people get so blinded to the person after they know about the diagnosis.

[EtTuTuttiFrutti]

i'm laughing my way through it.
I'm tryimg to find a way through this whole thing with a sense of myself "Intact".

[CremeBrulee]

people can be such unthinking twunts.

We're two years into DHs bladder cancer diagnosis, honestly some of the comments from supposedly intelligent family members and work colleagues have been quite breathtakingly crass.

He's doing well, all clear at last 2 scans, next one in Feb. It's not all doom and gloom.

[Therealloislane]

Oh Et.

No hugs, no shit advice, just here to sit on a seat (and maybe make a cuppa or clean your bathroom)

Have you started treatment? X

[Sundance01]

I'll join you - I have ocular cancer and soooo fed up with the you're so brave comments and the simpering looks. I would rather someone just said that's shit.

[MaryPoppinsPenguins]

Vent to your hearts content!

[Therealloislane]

My sister has cancer, a rare form that only 5% of people get & yesterday she was regaling me in song ala Alvin the Chipmunk.... steroid's have given her beautiful chipmunk cheeks & a moustache

[DayToDayGlobalShit]

Sorry to read this. Can I also ask what should people say at such times? Genuine question as my friends who have had cancer always wanted to hear positive stories

[Stormwhale]

Mil feels exactly as you do. I have had to talk her down on a few occasions because of the fucking stupid things people do and say since she was diagnosed. Seriously people, engage your brains before speaking.

[changingnameforthispost]

Me too, the little shit! Find some other people who have, or have had this.
Head over to the Lacies thread on general health.
Some good advice there,