to want in laws to correctly pronounce my very ordinary name?

[DrSeuss]

I have a very ordinary, English-of-Greek-origin name. Spelled in the traditional way, couldn't e simpler, really.
For over twenty years, ILs have mispronounced it. For twenty years, I and my husband have periodically corrected them. Not a huge thing, granted but it grates every time they say it wrongly.
AIBU to slightly mispronounce their names just a little, e.g. Sarah becomes Sorah, Jim becomes Jom? Childish, I know, but it is pretty much the only thing I have asked of them in twenty years! Other family members ask for and receive special food despite having no real grounds for this or meals served at a particular time despite having no children. I'd just like them to say my name without me mentally wincing!

[acasualobserver]

Could you change your name to something they can't get wrong?

[laidbackneko]

YANBU. This happens to me a lot and I have been known to overreact with a "ffs".

It's understandable if it was a difficult name to pronounce but mine is like Kelly which some people insist on changing to Keely.

[BendydickCuminsnatch]

Is it Zoe? Can't imagine how they could possibly get that wrong by accident. They're doing it on purpose! I think it's pretty rude to not make the effort to remember how to say your DIL of 20 years' name

[NapQueen]

Is it their local accent? I know people who pronounce Hotel with Hot-ell. Instead of Hoe Tel.

Some people are just weird.

What's the name?

[peppercold]

acasual

[rhodes2015]

I think that's the only way to hammer it home!! I did the same with a lady at work who kept totally getting my name wrong for the first few months I worked there, (think Tina instead on Gina type wrong) she's called Karen, it only took a few times me calling her Sharon for the message to sink in!
Do it X

[lasttimeround]

At least you aren't the 'mammy' I'm mixed race. Have explained to white in laws it has derogatory connotations. But mammy I stay

[blueskyinmarch]

Does your name actually have two ways to pronounce it or is it maybe just your PIL have accents which they can't really help?

[Manupprincess]

I feel you pain - 16 years of spelling my very straightforward name incorrectly. There are two ways to spell it, both quite normal, and EVERY time they use the wrong one. I send Christmas cards, put my name at the end of texts etc and DP has told them several times. Makes me give a frustrated sigh every birthday.

[lasttimeround]

I find it very rude when people don't at leadt try to pronounce names correctly

[shaggedthruahedgebackwards]

Is it an accent or dialect thing? (Thinking about the late Cilla calling all Claires,'Clur')

If not then the time to address it was probably 20 years ago!

[2ndSopranosRule]

YANBU.

I have a simple, common name. Unfortunately I share it with our big boss who spells it incorrectly differently to me. As a consequence, everyone not spells my name the same way. Clearly, the big boss must be right .

Everyone got my maiden name wrong. Spelled it wrong. Pronounced it wrong. And would tell me I was wrong. Of all the things I cannot do, pronouncing my own name wasn't one of them. Ffs.

[DrSeuss]

My name is Helen, which I pronounce Hell-en, not Hell-in!
Yes, I also find it a bit much after all these years. As I say, I have always tried to go with the flow rather than demand special treatment. Should have been more of a difficult bitch!

[davos]

That sounds more like an accent thing than, any be arsed to say your name right thing tbh.

[PrimalLass]

I can't actually say 'Hell-en' naturally. It comes out 'Hell-in'.

[Ilovetea82]

Yabu

[blueskyinmarch]

I would pronounce Helen as Hel-in. I can't actually get my head round Hel-en. Is it more like Helene.

[DrSeuss]

I went to uni with a British Indian woman who told me from the start that I would never pronounce her name correctly as no one who did not speak Gujarati could. But I tried, I really did!

[EastMidsMummy]

Hell-in sounds stupid, but it's just an accent thing, like the difference in the northern and southern English pronunciation of Sandra.

[sue51]

Lastimearound are your ils Irish? That's what I called my Mother, it's pretty standard pronunciation though I understand why you don't like it.

[BertrandRussell]

I think a lot of people wouldn't hear the difference.

[RebootYourEngine]

I am the same as Prim Hell-en doesnt come naturally.

[NeedACleverNN]

It's not really a big noticeable difference is it?

I can pronounce hell-en easily but it's not that far off from Helan and for that yabu and a bit touchy

[BertrandRussell]

I think it might be an accent thing. I'm posh Southern, and say Hell-in.

BTW - my Irish FIL said "Mammy" too!

[DrSeuss]

No, they're Southern English and have very, very posh accents! I'm the pleb Northern DIL!