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AIBU to not answer my door when I'm not expecting anyone

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Torchlight86 Fri 27-May-16 19:40:18

Am I the only person that does this? I live alone with my young son and all my friends know that if they come to my door I won't answer unless I know it's them and know they're coming! I wouldn't say I was super paranoid but I do always thing of consequences of things and do maybe over think things like I've seen in the news, people pushing their way into your home, I remember a while ago in the news a woman opened her door wth her baby in her arms and someone threw acid in her face, random attack,

A while ago an old friend who lives in my village was walking his dog past my house and knocked, it wasn't late but was dark, my curtains were closed so I couldn't see who it was, I wasn't expecting anyone, so I didn't answer, he messaged me later on and was actually pretty pissed off, I explained obvs I didn't know it was him and would have answered had I know, but he thought I was stupid for being cautious and seemed to take it personally even though it wasn't! 🤔

I'd be interested to know if other people do this? It just seems like common safety sense to me!

happypoobum Fri 27-May-16 19:42:15

YANBU I wouldn't answer the door unless I knew who it was or was expecting a delivery or something, especially late at night.

A knock at your door isn't a summons to open it!

Likewise I don't always answer my phone. Certainly never to a number I don't recognise.

If people think I am odd I honestly couldn't give a shit.

purplefizz26 Fri 27-May-16 19:42:32

I think you are incredibly over the top.

Why not look through the window, call at the door before you open or get a peep hole?

Queenbean Fri 27-May-16 19:43:02

I never, ever answer the door if I don't expect someone. Likewise I never answer the phone if I don't know the number! (And sometimes even when I do)

500internalerror Fri 27-May-16 19:43:35

I couldn't do without my spy hole!

Pipsqueak23 Fri 27-May-16 19:44:36

YANBU. I dont answer either as I am in same position as you ( me and my 2yr old DS)

The only people who I want round will text/ring beforehand x

VulcanWoman Fri 27-May-16 19:44:51

My door, my choice.

Krampus Fri 27-May-16 19:46:07

I don't do it but you are perfectly entitled to answer the door when you like.

We have a chain on the door so I put that on if I don't recognise anyone.

Fluffyears Fri 27-May-16 19:46:20

In our old flat I wouldn't answer if I was alone. Now we have a buzzer for downstairs so I get to ask who it is before releasing the door.

Chottie Fri 27-May-16 19:47:45

I go upstairs and look out of the window before answering the door smile

WreckingBallsInsideMyHead Fri 27-May-16 19:48:17

Get a peephole if you can
But no yanbu at all. Some people are drop in randomly people, others are not. All you're asking is a text or call to say someone is coming round and of course you'll answer the door. So perfectly reasonable

witsender Fri 27-May-16 19:50:09

Def get a peephole. I don't answer the door if I can avoid it, likwise I don't answer the phone to numbers I don't know...and even to numbers I do know if I don't feel like it! I'm pretty antisocial tbh.

dalek Fri 27-May-16 19:51:20

Another one here who doesn't answer the door in the evening if I'm not expecting anyone - and I've taught DD to do the same. DH will if he is in but not me.

Also don't answer landline or mobile if it's a withheld number or one I don't recognise - if it's legit they'll leave a message.

Wolfiefan Fri 27-May-16 19:51:56

Peephole and chain on door.
What if it's urgent? Police turning up on the doorstep? Friend in desperate need?

PatMullins Fri 27-May-16 19:53:15

Nope, I don't either

Buggers Fri 27-May-16 19:54:20

I don't either grin I have a real issue with people showing up without texting first & the only people who would do that is the in laws so no huge loss wink

EveryoneElsie Fri 27-May-16 19:54:49

Of course not, and theres no law says you have to answer the phone either!

Toddzoid Fri 27-May-16 19:55:35

I have a spy hole but there's a top panel of glass on the door so it's pretty fucking obvious if someone's stood there gawping through the hole. Likewise I always think they'll see me peeking out from the blinds.

Yanbu. I never answer the door if I'm not expecting someone and never have. Your friend should have text or called you to say he was at the door.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Fri 27-May-16 19:55:51

YANBU. I don't answer my door either. Sometimes people don't get an answer at the door and whack really hard on the window instead angry

Displays of frustrated aggression do not make me more inclined to open the door to you, thank you complete stranger outside my house.

Redglitter Fri 27-May-16 19:55:57

It takes seconds to release a chain Wolfie I'm sure a friend even in the greatest need could wait a few more seconds. The police don't as a rule charge into people's houses. They of all people aren't going to have an issue with people being cautious opening their door hmm

BranstonPickleandPeanutButter Fri 27-May-16 19:56:50

I never answer the door unless it's the post man, ex husband or someone I'm expecting. Trying to train my son (ASD) the same but he often opens it joyfully with me growling behind him. He tends to put off the charity collectors and Jehovah witnesses automatically though.

abigamarone Fri 27-May-16 19:56:54

I very rarely answer the door unless I'm expecting either someone or a parcel. Nothing to do with security, It's just more than likely to be someone/something I'm not interested in.

RiverTam Fri 27-May-16 19:57:25

Don't people have mobiles?

chanice Fri 27-May-16 19:57:44

I will answer once I have looked through the peephole. But sometimes im trying to sleep or put the baby to sleep and it's the people who keep on knocking that pisses me off. If I don't answer after three knocks then go away !

NapQueen Fri 27-May-16 19:57:54

I don't answer my door unless I know someone is coming or if it's at a time my mum may drop by.

I can sneak a peek through the blinds but if I then don't recognise them or don't want to talk to them I don't answer. I didn't get like this till after I had the kids and people would turn up at all hours "to see the baby".

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