It's DDs Birthday at the end of June. She'll be one. I posted earlier in the week about my mum feeling she doesn't get to see DD enough but not making time to so herself despite my suggestions and compromises.
Anyway the plan for DDs Birthday was we'd take her to a local attraction that involves a particular animal (don't want to say as it might out me/where I live as its one of a kind). DD loves animals, is always stroking our cat (supervised) and pets MILs dogs, she points and smiles at dogs we see when we're out and about. So I was really looking forward to taking DD to this particular place. We invited MIL along and she suggested we go to an upmarket but family friendly restaurant for lunch afterwards - we have been out for a meal once since DD was born to a cheap whetherspoons type pub so this would be a treat for DH and I too, we can afford to spend this much on her Birthday, and MIL is paying for herself.
I invited my mum along and told her the plan. The attraction isn't expensive (£10 a ticket for adults, £5 for children) but MIL suggested we get the bus because parking will be difficult, which is £6.50 return. And the restaurant is £20-25 per meal dependant on what you have. My mum says £40 is far too much to spend and eve priced her out of coming to DDs Birthday celebration.
She's suggested she could afford about £10 for a day out (money borrowed from granddad) and says we should go to a local soft play place with MILs sister and son (who's 6 weeks older than DD) then go to a cafe for lunch.
DH has told work he needs DDs Birthday off which is a Tuesday, MIL has booked the week off - not just to spend with DD but it helps her birthdays in that week.
I really want to go with the original plan, so suggested Mum and I do the soft play/cafe at another time around DDs Birthday - maybe the week before when it's my birthday, but mum says it's not the same and MIL already gets loads of time with DD so we should let my mum see DD on her birthday.
So AIBU and pricing my mum out of seeing her GD on her birthday?
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Making a fuss of DD on her birthday
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YumBountyChoc · 19/05/2016 10:38
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