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CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 16:58:01

Long story short, met someone in summer 15 and we saw each other a few times in quick succession, as she was moving house a few days later. We made vague plans to meet up and messaged after but this came to nothing as we were living in different places and then she was moving to another country for 12 weeks! Didn't sleep together, but had a tipsy kiss or three

Im a tad paranoid that she thought I didn't like her romantically as I was a bit insular on our last meeting due to work worries? I asked her out for a drink shortly after but she couldn't make the dates I suggested

Anyway now I've actually moved to a big city fairly near her, literally today. I think she's back in the country too and has finished her secondment abroad.

Worth sending a text out of the blue d'you think? Timing is a lot more in our side now if we wanted to meet for a drink.

CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 16:58:43

My thread title autocorrected to him, it's her

(We're both female) smile

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Thu 31-Dec-15 17:00:32

Yes, go for it.

DanglyEarOrnaments Thu 31-Dec-15 17:00:36

Just send it, you will know where you are with her then and can stop worrying about it.

Good luck, hope it goes your way! smile

Why not?! It's 2016...the year of happiness! smile What do you have to lose?

GwynethPaltrowIamNot Thu 31-Dec-15 17:01:36

Yeah , go for it !

CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 17:03:04

Great, I was thinking that

I'm struggling with what to say though! Also really kicking myself for not having brought up our final meeting weirdness at the time.

What if she thinks I'm just asking to meet up as friends/messing her around <overthinking>

Jelliebabe1 Thu 31-Dec-15 17:03:07

Do it! You've nothing to loose!

CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 17:04:34

Also what if she's moved on / not interested / in a relationship / thinks I'm weird?

The list is endless gaaaaah grin

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 31-Dec-15 17:06:34

What if.... You're great together and it all works out? Stop what if-ing yourself! TEXT TEXT TEXT.

CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 17:06:48

Are there any wordsmiths here who could help me construct a killer message? smile

FWIW she said she enjoyed our dates at the time, and definitely seemed interested then - but of course things change

Jelliebabe1 Thu 31-Dec-15 17:07:20

Just say "hi! Have just moved to ****-town, would love to catch up if you're free in the new year! Happy New Year". Then it's not like a massive come on. You can pass it off as a friendly/meeting new people thing rather than a date if she's not interested.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 31-Dec-15 17:07:28

"Oi, fancy a shag?"

Maybe not, I'll get my coat...

You'll soon know and then can move on accordingly if it's any of those outcomes. Maybe you should word it as a "date" so there's no confusion. Or "I'd really like to take you out for dinner sometime"...that kind of thing.

FantasticRik Thu 31-Dec-15 17:09:08

Go for it! Just send a text explaining you've moved nearby and it would be great to meet up if she's free. If she declines then so be it...

All the other stuff you can talk about over a snog drink.

let us know what happens <nosy>.

CrazyTracey Thu 31-Dec-15 17:09:10

Jellie that's great, herein lies the problem though - she was interested but I think she took my shyness as a rejection perhaps

Haha MrsTP I'm nowhere near brave enough to send that unfortunately grin

Just...you know...YOLO, man. grin

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone Thu 31-Dec-15 17:14:17

"I just moved to xxtown, would love to meet up in the new year, let me know when you're free for a date"

I think being honest with how to feel is ok, you know? I'd love it if a man I fancied said to me (bear in mind I have a DH! grin Just thinking back to dating days...) "Not sure if I made it very obvious, but I really like you, and I've been thinking about you, and I'd love to meet up if you do." Or something like it.

with how YOU* feel I meant!

thelaundryfairy Thu 31-Dec-15 17:16:05

Yes, go for it! Hope it works out well for both of you.

PalcumTowder Thu 31-Dec-15 17:16:29

Say something like... you've just moved to xxx, would she like to go for a drink if she's still in yyy? It was such a shame she moved away before you got chance to get to know each other... ?

You've got nowt to lose!

carcrushtelly Thu 31-Dec-15 17:18:04

Please do! I am waiting for my (female) crush to contact me - similar timings to yours, wild flirting but no snogs yet. My email keeps buzzing but none from her hmm WAHHH! Same as you, wondering if my shyness is being mistaken for rejection.

Go on! Do it! Just text her and say "Happy New Year and shall we meet up soon?"

Then make sure you come back here and update us! Good luck!

And if she's a decent person, even if she DOESN'T feel the same way now, or is in a relationship, etc., she would say no in a very nice, gentle way. It's not likely she's going to say "fuck off you cunt!" is it? She's obviously attracted to you because of the drunken kisses. So worse comes to worst she'll probably say "Really good to hear from you, CT, but I should let you know I have a girlfriend now" or something similar. And then you're only right where you are now, but with a clearer head knowing you need to move on.

SolidGoldBrass Thu 31-Dec-15 17:25:52

Definitely go for it. FWIW, most of the year just gone I was flirting on and offline with someone, and invited that person to come to a club with me. We both went to the club but nothing much happened; we carried on being friendly but I had started to think that the person wasn't really interested and was just flattering the old dear (I am a LOT older than the other person). But then I got an email along the lines of 'look, I really do like you and would like to take things further.' We have now been seeing each other and shagging each other to bits for a couple of months and it's awesome.
If she's a nice person the absolute worst that will happen is a friendly brush-off, but there's a good chance that she will be thrilled to hear from you and take you up on your offer straight away.

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