Deep breath as this is a wedding one. We get married in October and my friend has told me she's organising my hen do so all our friends can show me how much I mean to them. So far, so good.
Except, not really. Dp was in a bad mood last night and eventually said he had to discuss something with me. Said friend (who was dps friend first, and they go back a good 15 years) has sent dp a message saying that, of course, its traditional for the groom to pay for the bride and could he please send her £150. I've spent the whole night awake feeling absolutely gutted. I now feel I can't really go. Dp is mad that this friend knows we are paying for the wedding entirely by ourselves and it's going to be costing us a lot (not a lot to some, but a lot to us). We've sacrificed a lot to be able to invite the people we want, feed them adequately and make sure they have a nice time. Our money is joint money so our friend is essentially asking me to pay. Which is not have had a problem with if she'd just asked me. But, I have no idea what the plan is, or what this money covers, and nor does dp. I was just hoping for a nice dinner out or similar, and our friend knows this. I've never heard of a tradition whereby the groom pays. I'd either be happy to pay for myself or tbh on every other hen I've been on, the friends all chip in and pay for the brides share.
I just feel a bit gutted really, and I'm directing my disappointment at completely the wrong person. I feel a bit cross with dp that he's told me and that he doesn't think I'm worth just paying for, but then the next minute I know that's ridiculous and I'd be equally appalled to be asked to pay for his stag. But I'm also so so disappointed in my friend. I feel like no one feels I'm worth actually celebrating :(
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Surelynotabridezilla · 14/07/2015 09:24
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