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To request that my DH doesn't suck my nipples when I'm asleep

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Luxme Sun 28-Jun-15 19:16:22

I was just asleep in bed (hectic day with LO) and my DH woke me up by sucking my nipple. I absolutely hate this and have always done (he knows this and i wasn't able to breastfeed for very long as the sensation of anything on my nipples makes me feel disgusting) and then says 'you used to let me' (he's confusing me with his ex i think as i have never let him). then after i tell him off says 'ok ok' (he said this last time and has done it again).

Childishly i have put his toothbrush down the toilet. because without screaming at him, this is the only way i can think of getting him to realise how much i hate this as the only comparison i have is that he hates not being able to brush his teeth as that also makes him feel disgusting.

RinkRashDerbyKisses Sun 28-Jun-15 19:18:20

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littlejessie Sun 28-Jun-15 19:19:11

YANBU, that's not on! Especially not when you're asleep.

MischievousNaughty Sun 28-Jun-15 19:19:28

YANBU I would hate it too and it's very wrong that he's taking advantage of you when you're asleep.

Giraffodil Sun 28-Jun-15 19:19:50

Ew

Lj8893 Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:19

Wtf!!!

PHANTOMnamechanger Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:20

well, reading through your first parag I was going to sympathise greatly and say he should respect your dislike, and that if he persists in doing anything of a sexual nature against your will, then he is an abusive creep.

But then you put his toothbrush down the loo hmm do grown up people actually do pathetic stuff like that??

Luxme Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:29

I don't know why he does it as if he does it in the bedroom, everything stops!

ilovesooty Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:35

There is so much to address here I'd hardly know where to start.

littlejessie Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:40

It's technically a sexual assault isn't it?

kali110 Sun 28-Jun-15 19:20:51

I shouldnt laugh but i think what you have done is really funny!
I don't blame tou, i feel the same way as you.
He should respect that you have said no x

LuluJakey1 Sun 28-Jun-15 19:21:09

Interesting dynamics hmm

LuluJakey1 Sun 28-Jun-15 19:21:50

Tit for tat hmm

MrsKCastle Sun 28-Jun-15 19:21:55

Does he have such a complete lack of respect for you in other areas as well? He deliberately did something to you in your sleep which he knows you can't stand.

That's pretty damn vile.

seanbonbon Sun 28-Jun-15 19:22:10

shock I think you deserve each other.

UglyBugaz Sun 28-Jun-15 19:22:21

Wtf he is so wrong

BadgersNadgers Sun 28-Jun-15 19:23:02

Are you one of Sharon's friends?

Luxme Sun 28-Jun-15 19:23:11

Its an attempt to make sure he doesn't do it again. I know its childish. I've tried having an adult conversation with him, tried screaming and this is the 4th time he's done it!!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 28-Jun-15 19:23:30

Phantom - yes, ime grown up people resort to doing things like this when they feel powerlesssad

OP tell him in NO uncertain terms that he is not do this if you are awake or asleep and if he does it without your consent then it's assault.

Petridish Sun 28-Jun-15 19:24:03

biscuitbiscuitbiscuit

Luxme Sun 28-Jun-15 19:24:13

btw I've got another toothbrush for him.

Luxme Sun 28-Jun-15 19:25:17

I don't know anyone called Sharon. Sorry :-(

saltnpepa Sun 28-Jun-15 19:25:28

Don't you mean tit for shat?

alwaysaskingquestionz Sun 28-Jun-15 19:25:36

If he's doing something sexual that you have repeatedly asked him not to then he is sexually abusing you. I'm sorry. Maybe get this thread moved to relationships

MrsKCastle Sun 28-Jun-15 19:25:52

4th time he's done this?

May I be the first to say LTB? Not only does he not love or respect you, but he actively enjoys forcing on you a sexual act which he knows you loathe.

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